Month: December 2012

Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds!

originally posted 5/3/2010 Well, here is my horror story.   And I can only hope that it’s seen with open eyes, like all the others, by the politicians, lawmakers and media, that have created this frenzy of false fear. I, for nine years now, have had to register as a SO at the local police department of which I reside. Time does not “heal all wounds” in this case as no matter what I do, or where I go, I can’t escape the title that has been bestowed upon me.  Did I do something wrong?  Many will say yes.  Even I, through my brief therapy, believe that I acted inappropriately towards my “victim”.  Of course when I went to therapy through court order, I refused to admit that I was a so called “sex offender”.  I was then told by my PO and therapist, that if I didn’t admit to that fact,  I would not successfully complete the class and…

Continue Reading Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds!

All Offenders Treated as Child Molesters

originally posted 5/2/2010 I’m a convicted adult sex offender in the State of Ohio.  The problem is not that I mind registering as a sex offender, it is the Ohio Sex Offender Law that angers me.   Here, all sex offenders are in one category.   Even though my victim is an adult, I’m treated as a child molester through public notification within the community and I cannot move into a neighborhood with parks, schools, etc., that have children present. If I have to move, I have to notify the county sheriff’s department to get clearance, just to move into any town, city, etc.  It is a problem.   I am basically a prisoner in my own house and in fear of the neighbors through the community notification process.   It is Ohio’s Laws on Sex Offenders, there should be two separate laws, one for the child molesters and one for the offenders against adults. I am in sex offender…

Continue Reading All Offenders Treated as Child Molesters

He Helped Me Raise My Child

4/22/2010 We have been together for almost five years and he has helped me raise my daughter like she was his own.   He is a 2nd degree offender, so is registered for life.   We would like to move close to my family but are afraid to do so, because the strictness of MN offender laws. That and when we lived in TX for about one year, the city ordinance people kept sending us fine after fine, because the lawn was too long, there was trash in the yard (we lived next to a gas station and on a windy day the yard would accumulate random garbage), so on and so forth. We asked the city ordinance manager if we were to move out of state within the next three months, would they kindly stop fining us?  The manager didn’t even bat an eye and was in agreement. We had three months to move out. We paid more in fines…

Continue Reading He Helped Me Raise My Child

Venom Spewed at S.O. Is Appalling

originally posted 4/19/2010 I was convicted of Possession of Child Pornography,  something I am deeply ashamed of.   My conviction was as a result of viewing a website on a single occasion, as an isolated incident resulting from a longtime struggle with pornography in general. I received a 1-1/2 year sentence that was all suspended except 15 weekends in county jail and 18 months of probation.   I also have to register for a period of 10 years. While I am fully willing to accept the consequences of a despicable act,  I  am reminded daily of my crime by being labeled as a monster. During my probation period, I was allowed to live in my home with my family- including my now six year old son, but I was not allowed to be  alone in the same room with him.   I was not allowed to hug him or have him sit on my lap, wrestle, etc. The registration has severely hindered my…

Continue Reading Venom Spewed at S.O. Is Appalling

Registering 4x a yr for misdemeanor: Life is sure rough!

originally posted 4/15/2010 Just got home from registering for the 15th year…….Hmmmmm life sure is rough. Attempted CSC 4th degree is the only thing I have ever had the misfortune to have on my record…EVER.   It is a misdemeanor that is classified and treated as a felony!   I have been married for 10 years with three awesome children; an eight, five and one year old.  I was in 4H for six years; won a gold medal at the MSU Culinary Arts Festival when I was 13 years old competing against college students;  I was a certified Master Mechanic by the age of 17;  I started playing bluegrass 5-string banjo at the age of five and am now an accomplished musician who plays banjo, piano, drums, guitar, and violin;  I became a tool and die maker and went through an apprenticeship;  I mastered CNC programming and was revered as one of the best machinists around. I have lost every job I have ever had…

Continue Reading Registering 4x a yr for misdemeanor: Life is sure rough!

Punished for falling in love?

originally posted 4/10/2010 Why are we being punished?  Because we fell in love?? I go to court tomorrow on neglect charges cause I allowed my kids after three years and many tears and fights later to see their dad for the first time.  (kinda snapped.  They told my eight year old that he could have a supervised visit at his dad’s and then within two hours took it away.) I didn’t know what else to do and now my husband is in jail.  I have given my mom guardianship of our daughter and my mother in law guardianship of our two boys.  I’m scared, I’m tired and the one person who can make this pain go away for a minute, I cant even touch.   I’m losing my grip on reality fast and my hopelessness is getting worse.  AND WHY?  BECAUSE I CHOSE TO FALL IN LOVE AND STAND BY MY HUSBAND RIGHT OR WRONG!! We have been together for 1 years and…

Continue Reading Punished for falling in love?

Registries Used to Attack Offenders

originally posted 4/9/2010 I am a RSO in Illinois.  I was forced to plead guilty to a crime I did not commit. My brothers ex wife was trying to gain full custody of the kids (two of them)  so she could move to another state with her new boyfriend and used me to get it. She made her daughter(who was 4) claim that I had touched her during a Halloween party.  The child was interviewed by police and a psychiatrist and she kept telling them that “‘mommy says uncle (my name) did it” but it didn’t matter. I was later arrested (four months later) and spent almost a year in jail.  The other factors that prove my innocence are as such:  I used to have a lot of friends (now I’m a social outcast) that I was with on a daily basis and a steady girlfriend.   They were with me every day and she was with me every night, so…

Continue Reading Registries Used to Attack Offenders

The Madness Has to End

originally posted 4/9/2010 I am among those who cannot sign, but have worked hard at addressing my problems and believe strongly in what you are doing.  I face losing my career and my home for an act against an adult that, while inappropriate and offensive, does not warrant taking me from my wife and children for a year beginning next month, taking me away from my job which supports them and then having me register in my community for the next 10 years for an act that was largely the result of specific circumstances and the causes of which I have worked hard on solving through years of successful therapy.   I am not a danger to anyone.   The madness has to end.

Continue Reading The Madness Has to End

Trapped in Darkest Place in the World

originally posted 4/6/2010 Our son was trapped by Virginia policemen and they sentenced him for 20 years for discussing child porn with an adult “friend” without any intent to harm any children.   This is in Stafford county in Virginia, the darkest place in the world, where judges don’t consider the sentences, but mentally sick DAs determine them.

Continue Reading Trapped in Darkest Place in the World

An Animal Is Treated Better Than My Son!

originally posted 4/4/2010 My son, age 18, had consentual sex with a 14 year old, who said she was 17 years old. He was judically blackmailed by the DA to take a plea bargain. When we first refused he changed the charges to make them more severe. After a year and a half of waiting for a trail we finally agreed to a plea “deal”. I wish I could go back and redo that decision. My son served 3 years in prison and has served 12 years in HELL as a registered sex offender. No job, no future, NO HOPE. My family’s life or future has never been ‘normal’ since that day. We spend most of our efforts and money trying to ‘fix’ a grown man, but the restrictions placed on him as a Sex offender make him ‘unfixable.’ We recently relocated him to a small town and were working hard on getting his own business started (finally a job…

Continue Reading An Animal Is Treated Better Than My Son!