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My Husband Is not a Typical Sex Offender

originally posted 7/2012 My husband is a RSO and I love him dearly.  All my hubby did was show some porn to his daughter trying to teach her how to defend herself.  He realizes this was not a good thing to do.  She told his mom about it and she (his mom) reported the incident to the police thinking that my husband would only get a slap on the hand.  As a result, my husband was arrested and charged with a sex offense.  He did his prison time, but he is continually being punished as a result of the registry.  My dear husband cannot get employment or housing.  He now has to list all the places he frequents on the registry including the places where he eats, or it’s considered a parole violation which could send him back to prison.  He can’t even use my place to take showers or eat, or I would have to put my address on the registry…

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Don’t We Deserve a Second Chance?

originally posted 7/2012 I am on the registry since 2005, charged with child pornography; lots of images.  Took the plea deal:  10 years registration, which two years later got grandfathered to a lifetime registration.   Did sex offender treatment, three years of probation.  All completed, all done with.   I thought.  I am not denying any of the pornography, but at a certain point in treatment, I felt forced to add a number of things – touching or groping  that didn’t occur – just to move beyond that particular point.  I know it sounds like a lie; treatment was one of the best things that could of happened to me, it allowed me to reveal things that I have kept hidden for so long, including being sexually abused myself.   Another red flag:  I am not supposed to use that as an excuse, or a crutch, I was constantly told in treatment.  You are looking at a man whose life from the age of 12 has been fear…

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All Are not the Same

originally posted 6/2012 This is not about me, but about a young man I know.  I am a Special Education teacher at a very small school, in a small rural community.  We have grades K-12 on one campus, and everyone knows everyone.  I will call him CJ. CJ was classified under Special Education with low skills in verbal understanding, and low reading and math skills.  CJ was at least two years behind his peers, and so therefore was 18 when he was a junior in high school.   He had also been in trouble at a different school and lost many high school credits.   But he was a very likable, polite young man when he had support. When CJ was a junior and just started to play football, younger girls started to chase him.  He was friends with a brother of one of the girls, and it wasn’t long until the 13 year old girl “caught” him.  Her mother…

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Hard Times

originally posted 6/2012 In 2003, I was told I had to register as a ten year registrant.  In 2008, I received a letter stating that I would have to register for the rest of my life.  Talk about change!  My son had just been born and I was happy.  I was doing my best to move forward in my life but this letter just put a roadblock in the way.  I was convicted of two crimes; one in October of 2003 and one in the summer of 2004.  I was told that due to these two crimes I was supposed to be a lifetime RSO.   Other people have the same two crimes; some have even three yet they are 10 year RSOs.  How is that even possible?  I try to better my life by going to school and getting a better education but even that doesn’t help.  I’m a RSO in Maine, and I push forward cutting my way through all the red tape and…

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A Cruel Law

originally posted 6/2012 I was imprisoned for nine months in gaol for not pleading guilty and 30 years on the sex offenders’ list and was refused an appeal which has devastated my life. I have been denied  natural justice and I am stuck with evidence that exposes my innocence and I am also stuck with the stigma of being branded something that I have always despised.  What makes it worse — the culprit had admitted to the authorities in March 1984, but was not charged and it was his crimes that I have been charged with.  This was also known by the police with other damning evidence and I have been condemned for life with monthly checks. This is depressing and it if it wasn’t for my friends & family I would not be alive today without their belief in me.  That includes their daughters whom  I looked after as children.  Trust me with children and ignore the cruel law which has…

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What Happened to the Constitution?

originally posted 6/2012   I  am an rso residing in Illinois  it seems like every time that the state legislature is finished, there are new laws and regulations that are more punitive and degrading to rso’s in this state.it is a living nightmare of more punishment that is thought up by our government leaders. The registry list reminds me of Schindler’s list from the madness of the Nazi regime. we are being politically enslaved, and slavery was abolished by President Lincoln.  Martin Luther King died because he believed in what the constitution has written in it for the freedoms that all american citizens should have, that includes all rights and liberty. John Walsh is exploiting the emotions of people to gain fame and fortune. he is no better than the ones he puts on most wanted. it makes me sick to watch any of his endorsements or shows. he is one of the group of vigilantes stalking so’s, and promoting the madness, and include our government leaders as well.

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A Soldier’s Story

originally posted 6/2012 In July of 2003, I was serving my country as part of the PA Nat’l Guard. I was also a college student. During that summer, I did active duty at a nearby military training school instead of getting a summer job. Many college students serving in the national guard/reserves did the same thing. So, there was a group of about 10 younger soldiers all essentially working at this post over the summer. For the 4th of July, the whole group of us went to a party organized by one of the medics stationed there regularly. The party was held around the York, PA area. We were all underage (21 drinking age) except for 3 people. Those guys bought the alcohol. There was a fair mix of males and females. Through the night, there was a attraction between me and another female soldier. Honestly, I did want to engage in some type of sexual interaction with her. We were both…

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Falling on Deaf Ears

originally posted 6/2012 In 1985, over a quarter century ago, I was falsely accused of rape by a serial false accuser and man hater.   She accused me for a million dollar lawsuit.  This insane woman had a history of falsely accusing men, was a drunk and drug addict, had a long history of mental illness, and was homeless.   All this evidence was not allowed in trial due to Rape Shield Laws. I was easily convicted in a jury trial.  Even though there was no physical evidence, just her tainted word against mine, I was convicted of the highest degree of rape – First Degree Rape.  I was sentenced to ten years in prison. I escaped my first year, was recaptured two years later in Alaska, and given more prison time.   After release, I went on the run several times for refusing to register.  Now at fifty years old, I have a GPS Shackle, am homeless, and can…

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A Small Thing

originally posted 6/2012   I’m a registered sex offender who has been, in my own way, trying to open minds and hearts.  But, at least ’till this point, that has not included any involvement with RSOL.  The purpose of this comment, though, is fairly simple.  I would recommend that whenever an article appears in on-line media about sex offending which allows comments to that article, the RSOL community should somehow be organized to respond with one or more comments and “”favoriting”” of the comment(s).  For example I just posted a comment (under the moniker of “”do be do be do””) on a June 5, 2012 article appearing in HuffPo about Patrick Drum killing two sex offenders.  If my comment were “”favorited”” by enough readers (i.e., those from RSOL,) then it would be taken more seriously by others.  It is, undoubtedly, only a small step but any step we take to open minds and hearts on this otherwise fear-filled issue should…

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Nothing to Live For

originally posted 6/2012   I  am a registrant and I’ve been out of prison 11 years because when I was 19 a 16 year old used the state of Florida to essentially extort money from me. This “”victim”” had used the same strategy on 2 other adults, a 34 year old and a 64 year old. I was sentenced to nearly 10 years because it was a gay act and of course that just makes me sick anyway so they said. Now, nearly 20 years later and after serving my time from courts my life is so ruined.  I can’t go to college,  I can’t even leave my house for more than 7 days do too new laws that I’m grandfathered into. I’ve needed to be hospitalized 3 times and can’t because I have no one here to help me (Galveston, TX) to be hospitalized I would have to go to Florida where my mother lives therefore having to register there and canceling…

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