Silent for 16 Years

originally posted 6/11/2009

I am the wife of a registered sex offender in (a southern state). My husband’s offense occurred 25 years ago when he was 18 in another with a 15 year old minor. His offense is not even illegal in this state due to age of consent as defined under this state`s laws; yet he is required to register as a lifetime registrant in our state, the classification reserved for the most serious offenders.

Of course, we have endured very many negative consequences over the years due to the registry. We lost our home of over 10 years due to residency restrictions and now our state has passed a sweeping law that prohibits registered sex offenders from being on schools grounds. We have two school age children.

For over 15 years, we have silently endured the humiliation and consequences of these sweeping laws; now our days of silence are over. I came across your website and I’m interested in knowing more about how I can be involved to impact the laws and public perception in my state. Admittedly, I am nervous about taking action, but I know it is necessary. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

1 thought on “Silent for 16 Years

  1. comment posted shortly after original

    Dear silent for 15 years!
    Get involved! My son was convicted of “lure of a minor;” he asked a girl if she needed a ride. Even though the psychologist said, no criminal intend was found, they made him a registered sex offender.

    This is now almost 9 years ago; he suffers a great deal under depression and by now it has gotten so bad that I don’t know how to help him. His dad is trying to get him counseling but I don’t know if he will take it. He just had a bad accident with his company truck(it burned up). I think it is due to proof that he can work and he is not concentrating. Needless to say, all this mess with with this destructive law is ruining our society. I am not good in letter writing, but I am very good in doing “footwork,” I pass out flyers, stick them in shopping cards, behind windshields, even in the courthouse parking house,talk to people, anyone who wants to hear it or not.

    By the way, you can print out flyers from, and you will find on other websites plenty of other suggestions on how to get involved. What do you really have to lose??

    Thanks for listening and good luck to you and your family,

    Renate, Illinois RSOL

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