This was posted as a comment by The Outcast on “I Do Not Know if I Can Continue to Live Like This.”
It is too long for a comment, so I am moving it to the main entries–editor
The really sad thing to me about this story is that in 31 states, the age of consent is 16 years of age (see “http://www.age-of-consent.info”). In New York it happens to be 17 years of age, probably because when the idiot politicians over there created their age of consent law, the dart they threw happened to stick in spot “17″ on the dart board.Submitted on 2013/01/30 at 3:47 am
notamonster, you should definitely look into a remedy known generally as the “Certificate of Rehabilitation”; at least, that’s what it’s called here in California. In New York there are actually 2 different versions; the “Certificate of Relief from Disabilities” and the “Certificate of Good Conduct”. I’m not going to attempt to explain both of these in this post, but you can read all about them here: “http://lac.org/toolkits/certificates/summary_state_laws.htm”. Scroll down to the bottom of that page and you’ll find New York, plus a link to more information for that state.
The way it works in California is, IF you are allowed to apply for the COR at all (certain sex offenses here in Cali are ineligible for this relief, like mine unfortunately), and of course, IF the judge decides to grant the request, you are removed from the public internet registry and are relieved of any further responsibility to register as a sex offender. I have not done any research on New York, but a search for the word “sex” in the few documents I did glance at just now came up blank; this could be a good thing, or it could be bad. Bottom line is, you should definitely look into this relief, and if you need help with that let me know and I will dig up what I can.
I’ll be the first to tell you or anyone else that common sense is dead in this country, and in most of the world for that matter; BUT, based on what I’ve read in your story above, it seems to me that your “crime” is likely one of the LEAST serious of the sex offenses. Again, I don’t know all of the details OR the applicable New York laws, but you say you were “in a relationship” (sounds consensual), and the young lady was just one year below NY’s age of consent. If you were in that situation in California, you would DEFINITELY be eligible!
Anyway bro, I feel your pain man, I really do. And, I hope I’m not getting your hopes up for no reason, but I’ve got to believe that you’ve got a shot at real legal relief given your circumstances. If you decide to look into this, I would be very interested to hear what you find out, and like I said, I’m more than happy to help in any way I can if you need it. Drop me a line anytime at “email@example.com” and let’s chat if you feel up to it.