No forgiveness, no chance.

By Visham . . .

In my case, I was convicted way back in 2000. At the time of the sentencing, I was given 4 years probation, 2 years counseling, and a 10 year registration period. ~7 years into my registration time, the state passed Meghan’s law and made it retroactive to include all such cases from 1999 on… which included me (even though it had nothing to do with my case) and my registration was changed from the initial 10 years to life.

Now, 22 years later, I am still trying to create a profitable life for me, my wife, and children in a state in which forgiveness isn’t really given. I am in constant worry about how they are viewed publicly simply by being associated to me. I also have to deal with basically being redacted when it comes to finding a (living wage) job. And that is before I mention the restrictions that are placed on me in terms of how active I can being in my children’s lives.

Simply put, I (and my marriage) am (is) barely surviving because of something that the state or general public continue to hold over my head despite me being completely reformed.

2 thoughts on “No forgiveness, no chance.

  1. Hi Visham

    Your story is similar to my own, I had court in 2001 and 2002, and in my country the laws came into effect in 2004, and were retroactive, even though the crime was in 1995. I have been on the registry since 2004, but I was not lucky enough to start a family because I was 19 when first charged. I feel excluded from society completely, not only from employment, it is extremely difficult for me, I must use charity to get many things, all clothes I buy are used from charity shops also, but it seems society has changed so much since 2004 that even if I wasn’t on the registry, thanks to smartphones and multimedia a lot of people just don’t see the point in being polite or kind anymore so perhaps the registry isn’t the sole reason for my misery. I had a very rough childhood, abused in all ways, and are subsequently estranged from my family because the childhood issues caused complex PTSD which they seem to think is my choice or something. Anyway, hang in there. I *know* we are not the only ones who feel this way, and that to give up is not the answer either.

  2. Interesting that you don’t share what you did in the first place. (???) Or what you’ve done in all this time to become “reformed”. What was that exactly??

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