Don’t ever give up hope

Hello . . .

I have been on the registry since I turned 18 years old in 1996 in Texas.  I am now almost 40 years old and have lived a very happy and successful life.  With a bit of luck and lot of perseverance   I have managed to live a very  normal life with a home, a family with 3 kids, and a professional 6 figure job.  Now no it has not been easy by any means; but I will share with you some of the tricks and ideas that made my life as normal as possible  First off, you have to change as a person.  Remember your life is different now. You are a so called “pariah” to society, so you have to have a mind set that the general public could care less if you live or die.  Taking this into consideration; you have to think outside the box.  Friends and family will support you no matter what.  Not in a single instance did any friend of mine who found out I was on the registry  no longer remain my friend.  I explained my situation and even though they were shocked, I was even more shocked they stuck around.  Family is KEY!  My parents never gave up on me. If they had I would be living under a bridge today.  Until I was around 26; I was abusing drugs and selling drugs because I could not deal with the pain that I would have no future.  But my parents; God bless them; never gave up… they pushed and pushed and finally got me to get enrolled in college.  Still as the sex offender registry grew in scope ( online web sites) etc; so did my anxiety.  Still I knew.. IF I was going to have any kind of life; I had to be more successful at what I was doing than the person next to me.

Still…there is more I had to do…  Before I graduated college; I got a job for a major company in Texas through a temp agency.. this was my foot in the door… I had to make sure no one found me online; so I got an apt in the a very bad part of town in Houston.  I never stayed there.. but had it anyways for the registry purpose.. then luckily I got hire full time… but since this was a private company… they did not end up doing a background check on me before they hired me…

Soon there after my probation ended and I moved to a state where while I was registered; my name was not made public because I was a level 1.  Once I moved, my name was taken off the registry in Texas.  Luckily I was given a deferred adjudicated case in Texas; so I had no criminal conviction.    But even if I did; the 7 years had passed where I was not required to disclose my criminal information on job applications.  In the state I live in now; I petitioned and got my self off the registry and no longer a registered sex offender…

Nightmare over?  So I thought… but just 2 years ago Texas reactivated my listing online for no reason.  So I just went down to the courthouse in my current state and changed my name legally…  The only thing I have to worry about it these homefacts type websites; but even those, I have managed to push back using google SEO services.    The other problem is now with the inception of the the US central DOJ website; I am not sure if I will ever really pass a background check again.. so I spent the last 2 years working on a plan for that.. I have an at home business that is actually making more money than my job now.. so if I get fired or laid off.. I will do that full time and be just fine.  From hopeless sex offender to maintaining 2 separate 6 figure incomes; I am very proud of myself.. my children attend very good schools and I am actively involved in their lives

NEVER NEVER let the registry stop you from living your life.   You paid your dues to society!   The registry is only their for political posturing and for administrating tech companies who lobby for it. That is it.  It protects no body from anyone.   It is shameful that is takes someone to be on the registry to realize how anti-american it is.  Our constitution has been shredded by political thugs who use it for their own advantage.  Don’t let them stop you.. MOVE forward.

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