I was 19 and slept with a 13 girl at a party. I should’ve known she was underage but I was thinking with my penis. I was handsome, fresh out of boot camp, and extremely fit. For the first time in my life I had girls throwing themselves at me. I transfered stations and forgot all about it to 2 years later when I was questioned about it. I was charged and sentenced to 2 years.
Jail wasn’t that bad. I sobered up and realized how far I had fallen and that life as I knew it would be over. I learned how to weld and to speak Spanish. All in all it was a humbling expirence. I learned that i will have to scratch and claw my way to success. I have to work twice as hard for half the pay as my coworkers. But f*ck them and anyone who tries to hold you back.
People will not give you a first chance once they realize you’re a sex offender. There is no easy road unless you have family connections. Which in case you do have those most likely would’ve bought your freedom. Every single step of the way I have people kicking me in the nuts and stepping on my fingers.
If you have difficulty finding housing I’d go down to the welfare office especially if you have kids. In California there are a bunch of outreach programs that will help you and your family. I recommend getting an education. Either a certification for welding mechanic etc. Or a real world bachelor’s degree for example accounting or something in that nature. Becoming a nurse or a teacher is long gone. All that crap is gone. Be realistic when choosing your major because you won’t be able to get a job for the government, etc. You have to make yourself the best in the company where you are better then everyone else. You cannot be lazy because life is f*cked up and again you have to work harder and stay relevant or you’ll be first to get fired. Then start your own company that is the only way you’ll succeed and go into higher management.
Life is tough and now even tougher as a sex offender. But if you work hard enough and don’t give in to any of the bullshit, you’ll overcome it. Keep your guard up because as soon as you let it down someone will be there to take advantage. I just started my own company i make 6 figures and have one employee. I have been on the list for 11 years and have had to fight my way to where I’m at today. You can overcome anything and everything you just cannot give in to the difficulties of life as a sex offender. Focus on your day to day and making your life better.