Hello all.. I’ve been reading through your posts and first want to say I’m so terribly sorry for all of the things you’ve had to deal with. I never really thought of it until meeting my boyfriend who is now serving time in a military confinement for downloading a zip file that held child pornography. We met during his investigation, he stole my heart and now we have been trying to navigate life for a little over a month since he’s been in confinement. It’s hard. It’s really hard! So my question is, what can we really expect after he serves his time? We’ve been discussing our future and he’s really worried about not being the man I need him to be (as far as being able to provide for a family). And then not to mention if we were to have children, that he wouldn’t be able to participate in their lives (going to school functions, taking them to the park, etc.). I mean, if we did have a family, would we have to live in seclusion? Would our children’s friends really not be able to come over to hang out or stay the night? Those are some of his concerns and his fear in this is that he would be taking life as we know it, or normal life I guess you could say. So I’m just wondering if anyone can tell me what are the laws surrounding all of this? Like is he going to be banned from the bowling alley or the skating rink? I mean, is this stuff in the law saying he can’t be around children b/c of the SOR? What about going to places like Wal-Mart or the Mall? These are things I’m uncertain of and of course puts more worry on us not knowing these kind of details. I think him and I could live a semi-normal life and still be happy. I know it will take work and we will have to be careful so that he doesn’t violate any kind of restrictions, but I still think we can have a great life together. I don’t know ya’ll, am I living in denial here?
Thanks for listening!