1. Jamie W

    I can totally relate to this story.
    Only a couple of weeks ago I decided that enough time had passed and that I should engage in perhaps making new friends and possibly re-kindling old friendships. So, I set up an account on Facebook. Yes, I used my real name, because, as I said, I thought enough time had passed since my conviction (1999). So, I successfully set up my account and was given access to their database of members. I started sending out friendship requests to people who I knew from elementary school. I must have sent out maybe 9 or 10 requests when, I get a message from one of the people I had contacted. It was a guy whom I haven’t seen since maybe the 4th or 5th grade. That would be 1980 or so. After that we had moved on, he moved to a different area and we lost all contact. The very first thing he said to me was, “aren’t you the same (my name) who was arrested for messing around with kids at (name of organization)?” Upon reading that, I was mortified! I immediately set about to cancel and delete my membership. That was the very first comment I got! Really?! Apparently society is not forgetful. I will most likely never try social media again. I’ll stick to the message boards.

  2. James Coghill

    “for example, when possible, use a ‘nickname’ online, keep a low profile and don’t stir things up”

    I don’t agree with this position. Sure it will work if you accept things as they are and do nothing to change it. Obviously this is not the case otherwise there would be no motive for writing this article. You will never make the kind of change you are looking for by anonymously taking potshots at registry proponents. What you have to do is to change people’s minds and you do that by letting people know who you are and what was done to you. Once they see that you don’t have scaly skin and poison fangs and are instead human and no different than anybody else their minds will have no choice but to change. That’s what your friend did with you and it worked. As an RSO you have to take calculated risks but not unnecessary risks.

    What you encountered I think if you look deeply was a zealot or a religious zealot that believes they doing good by hurting others they perceive as evil. You were dealing with a person who only sees the world and everyone in it in black and white. This dualistic way of seeing reality leads to insanity. You were dealing with a crazy person.

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