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originally posted 6/2012   I was 20 years old when I had a sexual encounter with my best friends 14 yr old sister. I have known the family for many years and what I allowed to happen was not acceptable, however I did make that choice and I’m paying severely for it. I understand the laws (now more than ever) and know the difference between a young adult and a child. I’m going to be 28 very soon and have been on deferred adjudication probation since 2006. I’m also have a lifetime registry due to the fact they put 2 counts of aggravated sexual assault for one act of oral sex. I was told by my misleading lawyer  that I was going to do my 10 years probation and it will be dismissed from the courts. He was wrong and now its 6 years in to my probation, I’m in a hole that is ruing my future. I’m a honest person who works hard with lots of ambition who just made a bad choice one night. I…

originally posted 6/2013   I have good news to share thanks to Almighty God. I’m a RSO in California as of April 2012. Facing the world from this new perspective is scary. It was scary going through the process – getting caught, going through the court system, getting sentenced, registering, etc. But I want to encourage you who are registered having a hard time and to you whose loved one is registered. RSO’s are a diverse group of people from many walks of life and my hope that for some of you whether your lives are similar to mine or even for those whose lives are vastly different can learn from my experiences. I’ve only been on the “”outs”” for about a month and have 4 1/2 years of probation to complete. Again, my hope is that as I continue to share my life’s stories with this support group, some can take something positive with you. I’m very blessed. I…

originally posted 6/2012   I am a RSO in the state of IL in a town called Bloomington-Normal, commonly referred to as the Twin cities. I moved here about 13 years ago. I was 29 at the time, and my friend he was 24. He accused me of a crime and then fled the state. It took several months for them to locate him and forced him to come back to IL for his appearance and statements. He refused but the state mandated that he be here or face charges. To make a long story short, I took a plea-deal since he still did not show up and that is all they would offer me  and call it time served since I spent 4 months in the county jail. I have completed my probation, I have been complaint on the registry. Now that it is time for me to be removed from the registry. I was told by an officer of the…

originally posted 6/2012 I’m a RSO as of April 2012.  Served a year in county jail and now have a felony on my record. I have five years of probation to complete wherein I have have to find a job, stay away from minors including my own kids, parks, and schools.  Not only that, but add to the stress and shame I caused my wife, parents, and my church. I am a Christian man and I am also a sinner.  I disobeyed the LORD and decided my wants and needs were more important than obeying His commandments.  Now I pay the price for my actions.  Not only me but those around me that I love, and the victim and her family.  I spend a lot of time reading sad stories on the internet, about how RSOs are struggling.  How they’ve lost loved ones, their kids, their friends.  How they can’t make ends meet and can’t find jobs.  It makes me…

originally posted 6/2012   In 2006 I was dating a girl who was 17 with her parent’s consent. I was almost 22. She and I dated then broke it off. A few months later she showed up asking for help due to a family issue. Of course due to our history I wanted to help and I did; I put her in a motel where I was not staying with her and brought her stuff as she needed. One day the police showed up and arrested me for a misdemeanor criminal sexual abuse. Now I'm married with a son, about to finish school, and just want this horrible experience to go away. Everyday is a new struggle and finding a home for my family is next to impossible. Not to mention life at school; I'm one of the top students at my class and can never benefit from it due to my current status in this society. Finding work is…

originally posted 6/2012   I will try to make my story as short as I can but also getting to the point. Sex offense laws MUST get changed! My son was arrested in 2010, he was 23. In 2011 he was sentenced to 15 years in prison and Lifetime probation. He had never been in trouble before. At 1:30 a.m. the morning of his offense he was extremely intoxicated on alcohol and under the influence of the drug zanax, which was not prescribed for him. He did one inappropriate thing to a young child {{who was not being supervised by the parent, and was allowed to be up at that time of night in an apartment of young adults that were partying!}}. He did not use force, he was not violent, it was not a repeated offense, he had never done anything like that before. He was put in jail with no bail, where he sat for 10 months before…

originally posted 6/12   Hello everyone. My name is Cory and I’m writing this story so everyone knows the truth on how I got here and became a registered sex offender. Keep in mind I am not denying what i did and God say’s everyone makes mistakes, if not then your not human. It all began in September 2006. A buddy of mine wanted me to go to a strip club after the ball game and I decided to not go and go home instead. The next day my buddy was telling me how he met a girl at the strip club and how the 2 of them were into one another. Being the big joker i was at that time I decided to make up an email account sending my buddy sexual emails pretending to be her. Well the joke was on him and after about 2 weeks I finally told him the truth and he said he would…

originally posted 6/2012 Today I happened upon the RSOL website and felt such an incredible sense of relief and a glimmer of hope that perhaps someday our sex offender laws will reflect appropriate justice and true rehabilitation methods.  As a female sex offender, required to register, I have a unique niche in this strange RSO world.  I had no idea that by turning myself in for having an affair with one of my students I would be effectively destroying my life and beginning a perilous, never-ending journey to stay afloat, stay hopeful, remain strong, and survive.  Aside from the humiliating and awful labels applied to me (pedophile, violent predator, manipulator, child abuser, rapist etc.) and the emotional/mental depression resulting from such terrible labels, the most devastating trial that I have had to endure is losing my own three children.  The fact that they have not seen their own mother for over two years now, that they cannot talk to me…

originally posted 5/2012   “Although defendant presented evidence to contradict the testimony of (names not being used), upon a motion to dismiss, such discrepancies must be resolved in favor of the State.” With these words “”My”” country destroyed any chance of life in this country for me. The following describes my feelings as to what has been done to me by “”My”” country. Agony and Despair I am in AGONY every second of everyday. I am in AGONY because of what “”My”” country has taken from me. I am in Agony because “”My”” country has continued to Abuse me every second of every day. I am in DESPAIR every second of every day. I am in DESPAIR because I will never be allowed to reclaim what “”My”” country has taken from me. I am in DESPAIR because “”My”” country will continue to Abuse me every second of every day, until the day I die. I am in DESPAIR because “”My””…

originally posted 5/2012   My loved one is not there yet; awaiting the sentencing level on a later date.  Presently, the Aspergers loved one is serving out his time.  They did not rape or murder anybody but very difficult to find work and housing for them.  Some people have shunned away, even Adult Protective who neglected to help knowing he has a form of Autism.  I don’t feel it is right to deprive those with a mental health or developmental disability and be put on the registry because they can’t help they are disabled.  Announcing them to the world is risky and the laws should not be quick to use the registry for every single person; even if they are not violent people but unfortunately, the legal system can use your disability against you and sometimes, the disability  catches up to them by getting into trouble.  Instead, these individuals with disabilities need more supportive services, case management support, any helpful…