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This was posted as a comment by The Outcast on “I Do Not Know if I Can Continue to Live Like This.” It is too long for a comment, so I am moving it to the main entries–editor   The really sad thing to me about this story is that in 31 states, the age of consent is 16 years of age (see “http://www.age-of-consent.info”). In New York it happens to be 17 years of age, probably because when the idiot politicians over there created their age of consent law, the dart they threw happened to stick in spot “17″ on the dart board.Submitted on 2013/01/30 at 3:47 am notamonster, you should definitely look into a remedy known generally as the “Certificate of Rehabilitation”; at least, that’s what it’s called here in California. In New York there are actually 2 different versions; the “Certificate of Relief from Disabilities” and the “Certificate of Good Conduct”. I’m not going to attempt to explain…

written by Matthew Every law designed for sex offenders goes back to colonial days and the branding of the scarlet letter “A,” and in our case it’s the letters “SO,” and it is designed to humiliate and control us.  And the person to blame is John Walsh.  Yes, he says it’s for good of the children and society.  BUT, he is doing it just out of pain, anger, and money; then it trickles down to the children and society.  He’s placed the fear in society’s eyes that, when you say sex offender, it evokes a emotion of revolt and anger and even shame in people’s minds.  I made a mistake back in the early 90′s, and I took a few naked pictures; they was just simple standing or laying down or sitting pictures, nothing that involved stuff like porn.  And I sent them over the internet.  So I got busted and charged with making child porn and transmitting over the…

Nov. 2012   I want to share a story of something my wife and I are going through right now. As a registered sex offender, it has been extremely difficult to find housing. This spring, we applied to purchase a mobile home in a local mobile home park. When it was explained that there would be a background check, I started to withdraw my application, explaining that I have a felony record. I was told that I should let it go forward anyway and see what happens. A week later, I was quite surprised to hear that our application had been approved. Now, 6 months later, I have received a notice of violating community rules because there is a sex offender registered at my address. I have come to find out that the woman in the sales office avoided the problem of my having a record by simply not submitting the paperwork for the background check. But now somebody has…

originally posted 7/2012 Although you won’t find my picture on any of the “”sex offender”” registry lists , I AM a registered sex offender on a misdemeanor offense from 1998 and will need to register until the day I die per California law. I have been living a life of pure hell ever since the day I had to register! My story is a long one and I’m not the best at writing and conveying my emotions very well.  But basically I have been harassed , threatened , and humiliated by the detectives that handle the Megan’s Law department that I report to every year (popping up at my apartment building , asking the leasing office manager if I have been causing any ‘trouble ‘ in the building etc. and I am now facing criminal charges because after more then 10 years of being compliant with every aspect of my registry, I moved to a bigger apartment in the same building…

originally posted 7/2012 This has been a nightmare for my son all in the name of LOVE.  He just so happened to fall in love with a 16 year old as well as her falling in love with him.  The mother was aware of their feelings,  as far as I could see with approval.  That is until my son’s ex-wife and her dad got wind of this.  Then all hell broke loose nine years ago.  My son’s whole life was turned upside down.  Lost his job (of eight years) at the school system, his two sons as he was not allowed to see them, all the normal living was snatched away. He and Amanda would probably have been married (if people didn’t make this dirty)with a great life.  They were so happy together, always laughing. Anyway, my point is Amanda is living life and my son is still paying for this relationship all because of an age thing.  Well, enough…

originally posted 7/2012 The legal system is broken.  Regardless of what the Supreme Court thinks,  the sex registry is unconstitutional and cruel and unusual punishment designed to torture…simple as that.  It servers no other purpose.  If an offender of any sort of violent crime (robbery, rape, etc) is seen fit to be released into the general population then they should be allowed to work or live anywhere they wish.  Let police know where they are but there is no reason for the ignorant masses to have that sort of personal information. Nearly any other “criminal” is allowed a second chance except those labelled as sex offenders.  How is that fair?  How is that the American way?  It is shameful and unfair.  If you have paid your debt to society then you should be allowed to move on with your life without this unfair classification.  Holier than thou people feel superior when they can log on from their homes to see…

originally posted 7/2012 A year after I was added to the registry, my wife gave me a new billfold. I didn’t understand;  my billfold was not that old.  She took my driver’s license and put it in the new wallet.  The plastic window was smaller, and she pointed out, “Now you can’t see where the red letters state, ‘criminal sex offender.’”  Hmm, I wonder if there’s a non criminal sex offender? I tried to fight the registry, even joined the ACLU, wrote letters and e mails, and was in the process of organizing a chapter to join in the fight. She was dead set against it.  My wife has never even had a parking ticket.  I think it was a shock to her when she found out the police and legal system are far from being the good guys…sadly she fears them now, and that’s a shame.  Worse yet, she fears for me and will not accept what I want to…

originally posted 7/2012 I was charged with a CSC crime when I was 17, it’s on my Juvenile record.  But I still have to register as a Sex Offender.  I got my charge in Michigan & I failed to register like on my 1st time to re-register so I got a misdemeanor for that.  Fast forward to 10 yrs later,  I now live in Virginia.  Here, I register monthly & let them know where I’m working.  I lost a total of two jobs in VA due to the Trooper coming to my job to verify my employment.  He came in full uniform and stated he was from the Sex Offender Department.  On a background check my crime does not show up but my failure to register does.  I talked to the Trooper;  he told me they have to physically verify Sex Offenders’ employment.  So that led me to not report my working.  I have a family now & each time…

originally posted 7/2012 Ten years have passed since my conviction.  I have gone through fear of trying to be close with others; my new life has shunned me from others that cease to understand me.  I live in a small city in a studio apartment.  I have grown to be alone and fear that all I’ll become is a silent moving shadow that is among the community.  I don’t know what I’ll do; my life is closing in on me but I do live cause life wants me to live.   I have attempted to commit suicide a few times, not because of the registry but knowing that people will never take me in as their own and I’ll continue being shunned.  I just want to be understood.

originally posted 7/2012 I was talking through a chat room and ended up talking to multiple undercover cops posing as 15 year olds.  When they tried to get me out in public to meet I declined.  A few days later I was arrested anyway.  I was charged with soliciting a minor, even though I didn’t leave my residence.  I lost the job I had at the time and was let go from another shortly after sentencing.   My attorney recommended taking the deal offered but promised to appeal and never did.   I’m currently going through the court ordered therapy which is a joke.  I find they teach people how to find easier victims.  The therapist also has told the group that there are no good males in her profession and has blamed men for most evil in the world.  I can’t find a job and I have to see a man-hating therapist.  On top of this the county can’t…