Five Years of Hell

Hello, my name is Michael and in July of 2015 I was sentenced in Pennsylvania on one charge of invasion of privacy. In August of 2013 I was accused of using an old cell phone to “sneak a peek” at a girls behind in my bathroom at my home. I was sentenced in 2015. My cousins were there that night and not even involved, but pressed charges on me. My one cousin had just become a deputy sheriff in the County Court house and her Boyfriend had just become a part time police officer. They used scare tactics to get me to confess to this crime and even frisked me days later illegally. They told me if I didn’t tell them what they wanted to hear and if I didn’t give them my cell phone, they would go to the police. I was later brought to the court in which my cousin (whom of which pressed the charges) works and…

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What I Did On My Summer Vacation – I Got Deported

By James…. My parents, who are in their 90’s and in need of assistance when they travel wanted me to go with them to their time-share in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. Initially I wasn’t thrilled with the idea because I am an RSO and every time you travel you can easily run afoul of the law and wind up back in prison by doing nothing. We have all experienced that if you have done nothing wrong the government will invent something, we know the name of that tune. Since my ultimate goal was to leave the country and never return after my parents pass away I decided that this would be a good dry run for doing that. That way if something unexpected happened I could fix it when the time came to leave for good. Having heard horror stories from inmates who had problems with the Arizona Department of Public Services (ADPS) who told them to do one thing…

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Engaged and Enraged

My fiance is my favorite person, ever. It kinda makes sense, as I’m preparing to marry him. But how and when we got engaged was less than desired. Backing up a bit, I love this dude. We fell in love the moment we met over 3 1/2 years ago. He is incredibly ambitious and compassionate. Having working in fields where he saved people’s lives, put out burning buildings, and performed cpr on kitties… and he’s a gentleman. I came from a background of sexual trauma and was healing, and he was there supporting me throughout everything. He saw firsthand the impact it can have. We went through tough times (financial troubles) and broke up occasionally, always coming back together. During one brief break up, he went on a date with a girl (we were still talking) and thought it went well. 3 hours later the girl texts him saying she felt uncomfortable during their date, so he apologized. 3 days…

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Hired as Felon, Fired Because of the Registry

By: TK…. My employment was discharged yesterday. The circumstances around my discharge are such farce, that I feel compelled to share. I am 31 years old today, I plead no contest to an attempted sexual assault 9 years ago. I was 22, and the plaintiff was 19 at the time. Ultimately, I spent 2+ years in prison, released in 2012. For 3 years I worked for my family in the midwest. I moved to Florida to be near my partner’s family in 2015. I have scraped by with odd jobs and I have been loosely involved in criminal justice reform efforts these past 3 years. For the past 7 months, I have worked with a local Reentry Coalition. 3 months ago, the coalition director and I met with the director of our local reemployment offices. One month ago, the director of reemployment suggested that I apply to work there, she said that she was about to launch a reentry program…

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Quotes, Sources and Thoughts

“Sex abuse is a ‘growth industry.’” –in “The ‘Validators’ and other examiners” in Issues in Child Abuse Allegations in 1991 by Richard A. Gardner—found in Manufacturing Victims: What the Psychology Industry is Doing to People by Dr. Tana Dineen. Dineen’s 1996 book is heavy reading but has scads of very interesting, very relevant quotations with details of sources. (A list of the more interesting pages is added below. A pdf of Gardner’s full article is online.) Gardner has some very vocal critics, and he does say things even I find questionable. However, I imagine his critics can’t even begin to deal with his first irrefutable point: counseling ‘professionals’ who call themselves “validators” of abuse reveal a telling bias and prejudice about themselves. Having skimmed the article and some of his other work myself, I’d bet those critics cannot even begin to respond to some of the other things he says in an effort to improve how evaluations of allegations are…

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The Past is the Past

First of all I’m a wife of a former sex offender not active sex offender. Meaning no harm but when Jesus sets you free your free indeed he changes your mind and heart your whole being , yes I’m bringing up spiritual side , because society the world condemns you for your past , even though your past is past , that is what it is , my husband of 12 years was charged of an offense committed when over 20 years ago but charged in 2009 , the lawyer was a former prosecutor , then became a defendant attorney public , when Hub talked to him , all he said was your looking at 50 if they believe the victim in trial you’re looking at 25 years , prison, so Hub and I talked and his mom and said take way ever plea there is so he did which was written sex offender counseling , comm supervision for life…

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Prison

By Jim…After I was separated from my family and taken away from the courtroom I was placed in a holding cell. The cell actually had bars and was a carryover from the 60s when the courthouse was built. There I was stripped out and given an orange jumpsuit to wear. I was asked if I was suicidal and I replied, “I was given a life sentence what do you think?” Then I was transported in a van that was packed to the point where there was no room for any other people. Once I arrived at the jail I was booked, fingerprinted and processed by a medical. During my medical processing it was discovered that my blood pressure was 188/132 and I was immediately placed on high blood pressure medicine. After that I was placed on suicide watch where my clothes were taken away from me and I was given a suicide vest held together with Velcro to wear instead….

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Promised a cruise. Stuck with a Kia.

By Scott . . . On March 28, 2017 I drove onto the lot of Faccillo Affiliates of Florida Inc. with the intent of buying an automobile. I chose Faccillo because he had been advertising for a couple months that you get a free cruise if you buy Kia from him. It sounded like a really great deal so I signed the papers. I also want to take Robert, my new paramour, on this cruise. We’d be able to get to know about each other. Drove away with my new Kia and cruise tickets. Supposed to leave December 3rd and be gone for four days and four nights. I purchased a 2016 Kia Soul that had 458 miles on it vehicle purchase price was $16,685. (I did not have a trade-in) There were additional charges such as tax, title transfer, and I also bought a service agreement. This brought the balance to $20,901.33. I received a rebate of $3,250 and…

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Stay positive and keep fighting!

By Chris . . . In 2013, I was convicted of having consensual sex with a 27 y/o adult. I was a probation officer having a mental break down and she was on probation with my department. I was on her probation officer when the relationship occurred. I didn’t have power over her, nor did I intimidate her into doing anything she didn’t want to do. But here we are. The government apparently has nothing better to do than to worry about what two consenting adults are doing in a bedroom. The judge thankfully realized the uniqueness of what occurred and I received two years of probation. I underwent a sex offender evaluation and was determined to have not be a danger or have any behaviors requiring S.O. treatment. But I still had to register as a sex offender. My state has one of the more lenient registration laws in the country. Of course sex offender laws are really intended…

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Social media vigilantes out RSO to his contact lists

By Todd . . . Hello NARSOL, after reading the latest blog, I wanted to tell you about a true story of someone I know who has gone thru something similar, what I am calling ‘Internet Vigilantism’. My goal is to help those in the same situation, prevent them from making the same bad choices, and let them know they are not alone. This might be a good spot for Tales, but use it how you wish. Here is the story, tweaked things a little for privacy, etc. ‘John’ has been off probation for about 4 years and still must register annually, but has been active in the community, volunteering, traveling and rebuilding a new network of friends/relationships. A big part of that was a social media site where he was able to connect and stay connected with family, new friends, people he met locally and from all his travels. As an RSO, finding new friends and groups to be…

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