originally posted 11/12/2011 When I was in treatment, I was lead to believe that things would be a lot better than they ended up being. While freedom definitely beats prison in any sort of contest, I would say that things are not so easy. My neighbors all look at me like I am the devil. Not one of them has ever said a word to me, and they usually don’t look at me either. I can understand their fears, to some degree, because my crime was violent and involved a firearm. But the extent to which they shun me is something I did not expect. Call me silly, but I would have liked to have thought that we could wave and say hello once in a while, like neighbors do. I was never expecting to get an invitation to dinner, but I would like to at least live on friendly terms. I am from a small town, so my crime was…
originally posted 11/12/2011 I’m not sure how or if registry reform will affect me. I have no idea what tier I might be included in. I molested one of my children. I’ve lost jobs over my past and the fear, no, terror of the thought of having my registered status revealed is incredible. I have been fortunate. I have been able to be gainfully employed since my conviction in 1993. I live alone, and that is agony to me. I do have a relationship with my children and grand children now… somewhat at arm’s length, but that is understandable. The silver lining is that I have found out who my true friends are. Am I a danger to children in general or society at large? I don’t think so, and those true friends I mentioned don’t either. Do the fear mongers think so? I think the laws they pass speak volumes. s.
originally posted 10/29/2011 I am too with a son that has this title against him for the rest of his life. I would have never thought there was a site for this label. I have a son that was not incarcerated but screwed by the system. He did have consensual sex with this girl and then when they were done he went to her cousin’s bedroom and started to talk with the cousin. The cousin started to kiss my son, and that is when the girl walked in, and then she said she was raped by him. Her cousin told her that she was lying about this whole situation because she saw them enjoying themselves. This is what she (cousin) told the police at this time. After two days, they both went down to the police stations and filed a police report against my son. About a month later my son was called in to testify the story. This went…
originally posted 10/19/2011 By the time I was 15 years old, everyone who could possibly take care of me had died, so i was forced to go from Kentucky to Minnesota to live with a father I barely knew. A month after I turned 16, I got in trouble and went to a juvenile facility. After my sentence I was 18 years old and on the registry, but as a level one and still on juvenile probation. The only people that had access to my info were police. But I was completely alone in Minnesota, so I moved back to Kentucky. When I did that my juvie record became public record so I was labeled a child molester. So basically since I was 18 I haven’t been able to get a real job. I managed to get married and have a family, but I was never able to take care of them because no one would hire me. So now I’m 31,…
originally posted 10/19/2011 In 1987 I took a plea to misdemeanors and was sentenced to 11 months and 29 days of probation; I was unconditionally discharged from this in 1988. After that time I was a productive and law abiding citizen. I remarried in 1992; my wife and I had 3 wonderful children, and I was very much involved in their lives. I would attend all their school functions even if it meant that I would have to take a vacation day at work to be there. I was involved in both Girl and Cub Scouts. I coached co-ed little league for 3 years. All during this time, I was always gainfully employed. In 2007, in the midst of a nasty divorce, the state decided that if you were ever convicted of a sex crime, you must register. Needless to say, it created a mess for me, and my life has been nothing but downhill since. My divorce attorney quit…
originally posted 10/17/2011 My son was recently subjected to a death threat when a neighbor discovered that he was listed on the sex offender registry. What heinous crime had my son committed that our neighbor deemed worthy of death? “Falling in love.” He was 17, she told him she was 16. At the time he had no reason to doubt her. A short time later he learned a harsh life lesson. They never got beyond kissing or hand holding, but she wrote in her diary that they had made love. When her mother read the entry in her 14-year-old daughter’s diary she quite justifiably became angry. Without talking with either one of them, she called the police and had my son arrested. He spent 45 days in jail awaiting trial.</p> <p> Had the mother taken her daughter to the doctor, she would have found out that her daughter was simply voicing a private fantasy. The girl begged her mother to…
originally posted 10/4/2011 This is is a letter I put together after a year of listening to children and families. I hope it touches someone as much as it has me……. I would like to take the time to tell you what it is like to be a child of a Sex Offender. I wake up every day wondering how many signs may be on our front lawn. How many people are going to ride by our house and point and take pictures? How many people are going to watch every move we make today? How many times are people going to call the police because my parent has done something, which for an average person would be normal but because they know a Sex Offender lives here that activity with their child looks suspicious? How many more birthdays will be with just family because parents will not let their kids come to my party. How many parties will I…
originally posted 10/3/2011 “<p> I was added to the sex offender registry because a prison caseworker in Ohio gave faulty instructions to the State of North Carolina when releasing me into the custody of NC for Parole Supervision. If I didn't comply they would have violated my parole and returned me to prison. The case in Ohio was not a qualifying case and I had never been registered in the State of Ohio, but this didn't matter to officials in NC. When they got this instruction they automatically added me, no questions asked. When I appealed to the NC Attorney General's office for a second opinion, they stated that the State of NC has its own sovereignty to decide who goes on the registry and whether my Ohio offense is "substantially similar" to the registerable offenses existing in NC law — apart from any suggestion or validation from Ohio authority. So they stood their ground, to defend the administrative error…
originally posted 10/2/2011 I am one of those untouchables. And I’m not one of those ones that everyone agrees shouldn’t be on the registry. When I first got out of prison and was on probation, there was no sex offender registry and wouldn’t be for most of the five years I was on probation. I was able to find work easily, a place to live and had a large support group of family and friends who were aware of my offense and were there for me and helped to ensure that I fulfilled my probation community service and therapy requirements. Once I was on the public registry, 90 % of those people disappeared as they didn’t want to suffer the consequences of guilt by association. Right before my probation ended, the sex offender registry law was passed. Since that time the laws have changed so much, and the interpretation of those laws by the State Police who run the registry…
originally posted 9/30/2011 I am a convicted sex offender, 8 1/2 years in prison. I met my wife and married her while in a sex offender treatment program that I volunteered for. I come from a long line of addictions drugs, booze, sex and almost every other kind of things that were so wrong. She has never even had a parking ticket. </p> <p> Our plans were to start over, build a business, Be active in church and community (which for me was very strange) I started my own company, am an elder in our church. House, car, Harley, 3 trucks all paid for. It came as a shock when the police along with a news camera van Came knocking on my door. They informed me I was in violation of a class c felony (non registered sex offender) My wife was in tears when I showed up on the 6 o'clock news.</p> <p> I had to register with both the…
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