Month: January 2013

originally posted 12/17/2011   Life as I’d known it came to a halt in August of 2005. And so began our awakening to the U.S. Justice System and the insidious demonizing of persons arrested for sex offenses. Never in a million years did I think this would happen to our family. As parents, we defy the accepted assumption that we were abusive to our children. Never, Ever!! Our son is a victim of brain injury that affects his take on the world. With the introduction of the internet and an undercover officer bent on conviction, our son was lured into saying things he had not done. He accepted a plea because the alternative was too horrendous to think about. And then, they threw the book at him. First offense, many character letters on his behalf, positive testimony by a sex therapist from another state, a fully supportive family…….and he got twenty years in a federal prison. Life will be forever…

originally posted 12/14/2012   I am a 37 year old former school teacher that spent 12 years of a career protecting kids. I was revered as a great teacher and community leader. That was before I got caught up in a conversation online with the police posing as a 36 year old woman who had a 15 year old daughter. My unfortunate intent was to have an affair on my lovely wife. I was going through a time of depression and some drinking, and got involved in this conversation with the intent of meeting the woman. The police played a back and forth game of  “who is on the other end of the line” by acting the daughter at times and acting the mother at times… needless to say this turned into a nightmare that has DESTROYED my life! I didn’t get any prison time, just probation, yet I have the hell of registering for 15 years! My wife has…

originally posted 12/4/2011 On December 12th, a motion to ban parents who are registered sex offenders from stepping on school grounds will go before the Carmel Clay school board in Carmel, Indiana. I plan to be there, and this is what I plan to say: I am the mother of two children. My five year old daughter is in kindergarten at West Clay Elementary, and my three year old son receives speech therapy at Orchard Park Elementary. We mean the world to each other. My daughter will readily tell you that I am the most important thing in her life, and my son runs to me in excitement after we have been apart. I am a wonderful and caring mother, a label I hold more true and more valuable than the new label that has been given to me. I am a registered sex offender. I am not proud of this status, but I am not going to hide from…

originally posted 12/3/2011 I live in Tennessee. I have found myself on the TN registry for life, for an offense that was committed when I was barely 18. I am considered a violent offender according to the TN law statutes at this time. It didn’t use to be this way at the time I was convicted back in 1995. My offense was for having inappropriate contact with my niece  whom at the time was not quite 13. My niece,  her sister, and my cousin were over visiting with me and my parents for the afternoon. At some point it was decided it would be  fun to explore a game of truth or dare. This game of Truth or dare originally didn’t  start out to be anything sexual in nature; however it turned to such as the game progressed. My niece had her sister take her top off, my cousin had my niece kick me in the groin, in turn I reached out and attempted to pinch her…

originally posted 12/1/2011   Our experience is long. I met my husband in 1989. He was convicted of Aggravated Sexual Assault in 1979 of a 23 year old woman. He met her in a small town, went on a date with her, and had consensual sex with her. Unbeknownst to him, she was married. Her husband walked in on the encounter, and he threatened his wife with divorce if she didn’t accuse my husband of rape. These people had family connections with the D.A. Note my husband had no priors and nothing since then. The D.A. was related to the judge. My husband was threatened that if he didn’t  plead guilty, they would give him a life sentence. He pled guilty out of fear, and the judge sentenced him to 25 years in prison, 9 years behind bars, and then he was paroled out and served the remainder of his sentence on parole. When I met him, he was honest with me from…

originally posted 12/1/2011 My son briefly hung out with a girl in 2002. He thought she was 16, but after being arrested for 3rd degree sex abuse he quickly learned she was 14. He never did anything sexual to her, but she did perform oral sex on him. We paid $10,000 for what we thought should be a good competent lawyer. How wrong we was on that. He was willing to take anything the county attorney offered. Trying to avoid a trial, he plead to a misdemeanor thinking this would be so much better in the long run. Not really; a sex offender is a sex offender; all are painted with the same brush. We later learned that if he had been a few month younger, under the code he was arrested for, he wouldn’t be required to register at all. We had a psychological evaluation with a $400 price tag done on him for a professional opinion and was told he was NOT…

originally posted 11/29/2011 I actually attempted to obtain a Certificate of Rehabilitation about 4 years ago. I was convicted of a minor offense which resulted in my obtaining summary probation (stay way from massage parlors). Furthermore, I was informed by my then lawyer I wouldn’t have to register once the charge was expunged. Wrong. Well, I live in Orange County and the legal issue occurred in LA. I have never been arrested, live a good life and don’t even have any parking tickets. When I went to OC, the DA was a monster. She provided an investigative report (this is what is required) that didn’t state my probation correctly, and they were even saying they didn’t know what the resolution of the case was.  The woman was yelling, the report had numerous errors, and it was nuts. The judge finally stated he couldn’t find one reason to deny the motion, but it wasn’t enough. Now, I have children and they are beginning these park…

originally posted 11/24/2011   I am the wife of a RSO. I did not know my husband at the time of his conviction but know his story very well. When my husband was 22, he was at a friend’s house drinking. He started talking to a girl who said she was 18. As the night went on, they both continued drinking and ended up having sex. It turns out she was only 17. She went to school and talked like teenage girls tend to do and was overheard. My husband was arrested and charged with consensual sex with a minor. Only people  close to him know about his crime. It was a long time after we met that he finally told me. People ran away from him since the time of his conviction all because he is a sex offender. Since he is only a level one offender, he will be able to stop registering after 15 years. However, he will still…

originally posted 12/5/2012 In 1993, I made the biggest mistake of my life. Oh, no one was hurt physically, but mentally there was a lot of damage done. Every year I get to relive the incident over and over again, and what took seconds to take place, now gets played back in my mind in slow motion and in great detail. How could I have been so stupid, one moment of insanity. I should have pleaded that instead of being so scared and wanting it all to go away quickly and pleading no contest. So it started my life of registering as a sex offender. If I should happen to forget to register, it was off to jail I went, no judge or jury, just thirty days. You would think that once would do the trick, but it happened to me twice. The first time the police officer took me from the hospital. I had checked myself in because I…

originally posted 12/4/2012 My son went out with two of his so-called friends who had a teenage girl in the truck with them. They picked my son up at our yard where he was working with his step father. They went out and then came back to my house to hang out. A few days later I found out there were two detectives at my house from friends of mine. I asked my son why they were there and at first he wouldn’t tell me. I finally got it out of him. He told me that this girl told him she was 19 years old as well as his so called friends told him the same thing. I set up an appointment with my lawyer, and the day before, the detectives picked him up. I wasn’t home at this time, and my husband called me and asked where I was. Right then and there I knew something was wrong. Then my neighbor called me and asked…