Month: January 2013

Outcast from society

It’s such a bummer reading these stories, as they mainly serve to underscore the utter hopelessness and despair I feel on a daily basis as a result of having been branded a “sex offender” for the remainder of my life.   I swear I wish I had an answer for y’all (and for me and my family too!); some glimmer of hope, or “light at the end of the tunnel” would be great, but alas, such is not the case from where I’m standing.  So WTF, I suppose I’ll tell my story here too since I have nothing better to offer at the moment. First though I want to say to “notamonster”, “Matthew”, “AngelWolf”, “sandy”, “stricken”, and every other last one of you out there:  I will be a friend to you.  My deepest desire is that I could offer something more substantial, but I’m happy to give what I have: basically just a friendly, listening ear, and a shoulder to cry on…

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I do not know if I can continue to live like this!!

I was in a relationship with a 16 year old girl when I was 23, 17 years ago. I plead guilty to Rape 3rd in New York State and was told I would have to register for 10 years and serve 5 years probation.  After about 6-7 years laws drastically changed.  I was forced to move as where I had lived for several years was to close to a school. I was forced to register all email addresses and have my picture posted online labeling me a monster. I am forced to register my vehicles and work information if I am attending college etc. I didn’t plead guilty to this; I had no idea of the repercussions of that guilty plea. I was engaged to a local elected official, I was living at her residence at the time.  She received a lot of flak for this, as you might imagine.   As this is an election year for her, I left.  I was not…

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Any New News On changing Pa. Law

I haven’t heard any new news on what’s happening with groups standing up and fighting this new law in Pennsylvania.  Last I heard, RSOL said they are going to stand up and fight this for a number of reasons.  Like 10 days after RSOL announced that, I got a call from my local A.C.L.U office and they took down my complaint, and said they have been swamped with callers and people looking to file a complaint, that they are forwarding all complaints to the legal team and they will determine which way to best handle this.  Also, the one advocate from RSOL named Frank is the liaison to a attorney that will handle this as well.  I am posting this in hopes someone has any news on what’s going on.  As this is stressing me out worrying about this.  I don’t want to seem like a whiner but I am trying to stay strong and keep the faith.   But…

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Back In Time

You know this new law that came out in Pennsylvania on December 20, 2012 has brought back those same old feelings I had when I first was released in 2004… I didn’t go out except at night to shop because I didn’t want to run into people especially with children around.  Then I finally found a job that kept me out mostly at night.  Which was great that way I was safe from being around people and the fear of being picked out or pointed at and whispered about…then I got laid off and developed health problems and I slowly become a recluse and didn’t leave my home except for bill paying and shopping which slowly turned into not leaving except for health issues…THEN now that I need a nurses aide daily and I was ending my 10 year registration I hardly thought about my past except at that once a year trip to the PSP to be looked down…

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Scarlet Letters

written by Matthew Every law designed for sex offenders goes back to colonial days and the branding of the scarlet letter “A,” and in our case it’s the letters “SO,” and it is designed to humiliate and control us.  And the person to blame is John Walsh.  Yes, he says it’s for good of the children and society.  BUT, he is doing it just out of pain, anger, and money; then it trickles down to the children and society.  He’s placed the fear in society’s eyes that, when you say sex offender, it evokes a emotion of revolt and anger and even shame in people’s minds.  I made a mistake back in the early 90′s, and I took a few naked pictures; they was just simple standing or laying down or sitting pictures, nothing that involved stuff like porn.  And I sent them over the internet.  So I got busted and charged with making child porn and transmitting over the…

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Never Ends

As a offender who has been sentenced for a crime and paid my debt to society by completing a 13 year prison sentence along with 3 years of supervised release, I often feel that the registry laws do force a burden that is in effect equal to the death sentence. Here in Pennsylvania, I now have gone from 10 year registrant to a lifetime (when I was released in 2004 I had to register for 10 years); now laws keep changing. and I must register for life every three months. Also my car and all email accounts and place of work must be updated, along with any time I’m out of my home for vacation and where I’m spending that time. I must pay for the gas to go register along with the usual hour wait to get the registering updated. Not to mention the attitude you get from the state cops who are forced to do this job that they wouldn’t care to. I…

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Will Fight

Nov. 2012   I want to share a story of something my wife and I are going through right now. As a registered sex offender, it has been extremely difficult to find housing. This spring, we applied to purchase a mobile home in a local mobile home park. When it was explained that there would be a background check, I started to withdraw my application, explaining that I have a felony record. I was told that I should let it go forward anyway and see what happens. A week later, I was quite surprised to hear that our application had been approved. Now, 6 months later, I have received a notice of violating community rules because there is a sex offender registered at my address. I have come to find out that the woman in the sales office avoided the problem of my having a record by simply not submitting the paperwork for the background check. But now somebody has…

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I Feel Like My Life Is Over

originally posted 7/2012 Although you won’t find my picture on any of the “”sex offender”” registry lists , I AM a registered sex offender on a misdemeanor offense from 1998 and will need to register until the day I die per California law. I have been living a life of pure hell ever since the day I had to register! My story is a long one and I’m not the best at writing and conveying my emotions very well.  But basically I have been harassed , threatened , and humiliated by the detectives that handle the Megan’s Law department that I report to every year (popping up at my apartment building , asking the leasing office manager if I have been causing any ‘trouble ‘ in the building etc. and I am now facing criminal charges because after more then 10 years of being compliant with every aspect of my registry, I moved to a bigger apartment in the same building…

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Mother of RSO

originally posted 7/2012 This has been a nightmare for my son all in the name of LOVE.  He just so happened to fall in love with a 16 year old as well as her falling in love with him.  The mother was aware of their feelings,  as far as I could see with approval.  That is until my son’s ex-wife and her dad got wind of this.  Then all hell broke loose nine years ago.  My son’s whole life was turned upside down.  Lost his job (of eight years) at the school system, his two sons as he was not allowed to see them, all the normal living was snatched away. He and Amanda would probably have been married (if people didn’t make this dirty)with a great life.  They were so happy together, always laughing. Anyway, my point is Amanda is living life and my son is still paying for this relationship all because of an age thing.  Well, enough…

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Legal System Is Broken

originally posted 7/2012 The legal system is broken.  Regardless of what the Supreme Court thinks,  the sex registry is unconstitutional and cruel and unusual punishment designed to torture…simple as that.  It servers no other purpose.  If an offender of any sort of violent crime (robbery, rape, etc) is seen fit to be released into the general population then they should be allowed to work or live anywhere they wish.  Let police know where they are but there is no reason for the ignorant masses to have that sort of personal information. Nearly any other “criminal” is allowed a second chance except those labelled as sex offenders.  How is that fair?  How is that the American way?  It is shameful and unfair.  If you have paid your debt to society then you should be allowed to move on with your life without this unfair classification.  Holier than thou people feel superior when they can log on from their homes to see…

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