Month: January 2013

originally posted 6/2012 In July of 2003, I was serving my country as part of the PA Nat’l Guard. I was also a college student. During that summer, I did active duty at a nearby military training school instead of getting a summer job. Many college students serving in the national guard/reserves did the same thing. So, there was a group of about 10 younger soldiers all essentially working at this post over the summer. For the 4th of July, the whole group of us went to a party organized by one of the medics stationed there regularly. The party was held around the York, PA area. We were all underage (21 drinking age) except for 3 people. Those guys bought the alcohol. There was a fair mix of males and females. Through the night, there was a attraction between me and another female soldier. Honestly, I did want to engage in some type of sexual interaction with her. We were both…

originally posted 6/2012 In 1985, over a quarter century ago, I was falsely accused of rape by a serial false accuser and man hater.   She accused me for a million dollar lawsuit.  This insane woman had a history of falsely accusing men, was a drunk and drug addict, had a long history of mental illness, and was homeless.   All this evidence was not allowed in trial due to Rape Shield Laws. I was easily convicted in a jury trial.  Even though there was no physical evidence, just her tainted word against mine, I was convicted of the highest degree of rape – First Degree Rape.  I was sentenced to ten years in prison. I escaped my first year, was recaptured two years later in Alaska, and given more prison time.   After release, I went on the run several times for refusing to register.  Now at fifty years old, I have a GPS Shackle, am homeless, and can…

originally posted 6/2012   I’m a registered sex offender who has been, in my own way, trying to open minds and hearts.  But, at least ’till this point, that has not included any involvement with RSOL.  The purpose of this comment, though, is fairly simple.  I would recommend that whenever an article appears in on-line media about sex offending which allows comments to that article, the RSOL community should somehow be organized to respond with one or more comments and “”favoriting”” of the comment(s).  For example I just posted a comment (under the moniker of “”do be do be do””) on a June 5, 2012 article appearing in HuffPo about Patrick Drum killing two sex offenders.  If my comment were “”favorited”” by enough readers (i.e., those from RSOL,) then it would be taken more seriously by others.  It is, undoubtedly, only a small step but any step we take to open minds and hearts on this otherwise fear-filled issue should…

originally posted 6/2012   I  am a registrant and I’ve been out of prison 11 years because when I was 19 a 16 year old used the state of Florida to essentially extort money from me. This “”victim”” had used the same strategy on 2 other adults, a 34 year old and a 64 year old. I was sentenced to nearly 10 years because it was a gay act and of course that just makes me sick anyway so they said. Now, nearly 20 years later and after serving my time from courts my life is so ruined.  I can’t go to college,  I can’t even leave my house for more than 7 days do too new laws that I’m grandfathered into. I’ve needed to be hospitalized 3 times and can’t because I have no one here to help me (Galveston, TX) to be hospitalized I would have to go to Florida where my mother lives therefore having to register there and canceling…

originally posted 6/2012   I was 20 years old when I had a sexual encounter with my best friends 14 yr old sister. I have known the family for many years and what I allowed to happen was not acceptable, however I did make that choice and I’m paying severely for it. I understand the laws (now more than ever) and know the difference between a young adult and a child. I’m going to be 28 very soon and have been on deferred adjudication probation since 2006. I’m also have a lifetime registry due to the fact they put 2 counts of aggravated sexual assault for one act of oral sex. I was told by my misleading lawyer  that I was going to do my 10 years probation and it will be dismissed from the courts. He was wrong and now its 6 years in to my probation, I’m in a hole that is ruing my future. I’m a honest person who works hard with lots of ambition who just made a bad choice one night. I…

originally posted 6/2013   I have good news to share thanks to Almighty God. I’m a RSO in California as of April 2012. Facing the world from this new perspective is scary. It was scary going through the process – getting caught, going through the court system, getting sentenced, registering, etc. But I want to encourage you who are registered having a hard time and to you whose loved one is registered. RSO’s are a diverse group of people from many walks of life and my hope that for some of you whether your lives are similar to mine or even for those whose lives are vastly different can learn from my experiences. I’ve only been on the “”outs”” for about a month and have 4 1/2 years of probation to complete. Again, my hope is that as I continue to share my life’s stories with this support group, some can take something positive with you. I’m very blessed. I…

originally posted 6/2012   I am a RSO in the state of IL in a town called Bloomington-Normal, commonly referred to as the Twin cities. I moved here about 13 years ago. I was 29 at the time, and my friend he was 24. He accused me of a crime and then fled the state. It took several months for them to locate him and forced him to come back to IL for his appearance and statements. He refused but the state mandated that he be here or face charges. To make a long story short, I took a plea-deal since he still did not show up and that is all they would offer me  and call it time served since I spent 4 months in the county jail. I have completed my probation, I have been complaint on the registry. Now that it is time for me to be removed from the registry. I was told by an officer of the…

originally posted 6/2012 I’m a RSO as of April 2012.  Served a year in county jail and now have a felony on my record. I have five years of probation to complete wherein I have have to find a job, stay away from minors including my own kids, parks, and schools.  Not only that, but add to the stress and shame I caused my wife, parents, and my church. I am a Christian man and I am also a sinner.  I disobeyed the LORD and decided my wants and needs were more important than obeying His commandments.  Now I pay the price for my actions.  Not only me but those around me that I love, and the victim and her family.  I spend a lot of time reading sad stories on the internet, about how RSOs are struggling.  How they’ve lost loved ones, their kids, their friends.  How they can’t make ends meet and can’t find jobs.  It makes me…

originally posted 6/2012   In 2006 I was dating a girl who was 17 with her parent’s consent. I was almost 22. She and I dated then broke it off. A few months later she showed up asking for help due to a family issue. Of course due to our history I wanted to help and I did; I put her in a motel where I was not staying with her and brought her stuff as she needed. One day the police showed up and arrested me for a misdemeanor criminal sexual abuse. Now I'm married with a son, about to finish school, and just want this horrible experience to go away. Everyday is a new struggle and finding a home for my family is next to impossible. Not to mention life at school; I'm one of the top students at my class and can never benefit from it due to my current status in this society. Finding work is…

originally posted 6/2012   I will try to make my story as short as I can but also getting to the point. Sex offense laws MUST get changed! My son was arrested in 2010, he was 23. In 2011 he was sentenced to 15 years in prison and Lifetime probation. He had never been in trouble before. At 1:30 a.m. the morning of his offense he was extremely intoxicated on alcohol and under the influence of the drug zanax, which was not prescribed for him. He did one inappropriate thing to a young child {{who was not being supervised by the parent, and was allowed to be up at that time of night in an apartment of young adults that were partying!}}. He did not use force, he was not violent, it was not a repeated offense, he had never done anything like that before. He was put in jail with no bail, where he sat for 10 months before…