originally posted 9/24/11 My story isn't even really mine. It's my fiancee's. We are in the most ridiculous circumstance I could ever have imagined. In June of this year, he was just starting out in his own business, and I was getting ahead in my job and we were starting to plan our wedding.. things were going well. I knew he had spent some time in jail for statutory rape (he 18, her 16) and he had 13 years of probation in Wisconsin.</p> When he was released from probation he moved to Texas and that's where we met. He was told by his probation officer that he was DONE with all of it, registering, probation, etc. Apparently not. In June of this year I was house sitting for my Mom and I get a call from the US Marshalls saying they were tracking a fugitive and one of my Mom's dogs had gotten loose and they had to shoot…
originally posted 3/25/2011 I am so happy to have found your site and see that someone is supporting this cause. I watch my husband’s shame and degradation daily even though he served 3 years in prison and 7 additional years of parole and sex offender “therapy” for a sexual contact charge. The victim has long since forgiven him and we speak to her weekly yet the government will not let us live in peace. I also suffer the shame due to the sex offender registry.
originally posted 3/6/2011 My local state representative, Nathan Fletcher, wrote Chelsea’s Law. Even though he is our representative, his office has refused to set up a meeting to meet with him.He is young, good looking, and is making a name for himself. He is now introducing more restrictive new laws. Chelsea’s parents have now moved to Illinois. They plan to introduce new laws in several states. It is important to pay attention to California because most states will follow suit eventually. We have some of the strictest laws and penalties in the nation. Some background: Our son was sent to prison for talking to a girl who he believed was 19. She told him she was 19. When he found out that she had lied, he refused to take her calls. Our son was 31.A year later, the police set up a pre-text call to his home. He talked to her, and was arrested the following month. He fought the…
originally postged 2/28/2011 I have known about my husband’s past since we first met and he was very truthful with me about the whole thing but as a sex offender we’re not allowed to live together as a family because I have 2 kids that aren’t his but his offense was with a teenager who lied about her age – she was NOT a child. So how fair is that she got to walk off clean but he is still being punished even after he did his time in prison. And in this economy it is impossible to live in two different places. I think you guys in RSOL are doing a wonderful job in trying to help out all these sex offenders. they need all the help and support they can get because they have to deal with a lot out here in this world. Every day they have to worry and freak out about everyone around them and…
originally posted 2/26/2011 As a mother of a convicted “sex offender”, I am outraged at the current laws which catagorize every person’s offense as if their situations are the same. My son was even kicked out of the Church he attended. He has been, and continues to be, so broken over his past mistake. After years of condemnation, he finally turned to his faith and became a member of a community church. He told them of his past and was accepted with open arms. After a while, he felt as if he was finally being able to put his mistake behind him and felt for the first time that he would rise above the stigmatism of his past! But then… another member complained resulting in his dismissal as a member of the church! During my son’s initial legal process, he was asked to take a plea agreement without the “understanding” of the ramifications it would have on his entire life;…
posted by Alex Marbury When i was 24 yrs old, i was involved with a minor on a computer who was 15 yrs old. She took her shirt off on the computer and we exchanged several sexual conversations And a 16 yr old girl sent me a picture of her partially nude on her cell phone. I did 6 months in jail and was charged with exposing myself to this minor girl. I never sent a picture to her. And now a judge required me to register for 15 yrs in the state to which I moved. Once there, the state told me that my crime was compared to a domestic abuse case and told me that i didn’t have to register. I lived life for 2 yrs, until this valentines day they got hold of me and told me that the law changed and any out of state offender required to register out of state had to register in this state too. Though my…
originally posted 2/22/2011 I was very happy to come upon your website and finally hope to find some support. I am the devastated mother of a wrongly-convicted sex offender in Florida, who fell for the bait thrown at him while on a Yahoo Adult Website. A young, single and vulnerable 24yr-old, with a completely clean background and on whom they found NO other incriminating material but that which the well-trained police made him send over the course of two days. Yet, he was set up in such a way that he had little recourse, and when the time came up, he was diswayed from risking a trial and suggested by his lawyer to instead plea NO CONTEST, otherwise his risk would be too high. He was convicted to almost six years of prison time, 2 of community control, fifteen of probation and a lifetime registration. And we live in a so-called “democratic society” that goes after other countries that go…
originally posted 2/17/2011 If a 13 year old can consent to lie about her age and put herself off as an 18 year she should be held responsible. If they are going to hold people accountable for knowing someone’s true age when the look older than they are then the US should require you to carry an ID card from the time you are 12 years old. This is because girls today are dressing and developing sooner than before. I have always taught my son to look out for younger girls, but it never crossed my mind that girls were lying about their age.
originally posted 2/17/2011 Ten years ago, my son, who was high on pot, exposed himself to a woman in his own house & asked her for oral sex. When she said “No thanks” he ‘grabbed’ her by the arm & apologized. For that he was found guilty of Attempted Sexual Assault(no injury). He never touched her sexually in any way, and the “assault” was him grabbing her arm. He’s on the Sex Off. Registry with rapists and child molesters and is viewed as one in the same. Because of this, he gets threatening letters in his mailbox & no one will hire him. He is serving 4 years now because he missed one of his meetings due to a miscommunication between him and an officer. What happened to HIS constitutional rights, and those of others like him, that allows his name, address, picture, etc. to be pulled up on the internet, linked to those who are rapists, child molesters and…
originally posted 2/17/2011 There’s a lot of back lash and I have experience a lot of it in my life. My husband is a sex offender on the registry for the last 8 years and has to register for life. My step-father is an offender on the registry. My son now has a case pending and it is likely he will have to register and he is only 13. I am also a victim myself. And my daughter is a victim. I have been through the courts with my family and I have been through the sex offender counseling with my husband. I have seen first hand the affects of the registry on not just the offenders but their family’s. I have a unique prospective that may make people listen to me. Having been on the wrong side of sex crimes on everyone involved but still saying this is not the solution. I feel as if this issue having been around me my whole…
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