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originally posted 12/1/2011   Our experience is long. I met my husband in 1989. He was convicted of Aggravated Sexual Assault in 1979 of a 23 year old woman. He met her in a small town, went on a date with her, and had consensual sex with her. Unbeknownst to him, she was married. Her husband walked in on the encounter, and he threatened his wife with divorce if she didn’t accuse my husband of rape. These people had family connections with the D.A. Note my husband had no priors and nothing since then. The D.A. was related to the judge. My husband was threatened that if he didn’t  plead guilty, they would give him a life sentence. He pled guilty out of fear, and the judge sentenced him to 25 years in prison, 9 years behind bars, and then he was paroled out and served the remainder of his sentence on parole. When I met him, he was honest with me from…

originally posted 12/1/2011 My son briefly hung out with a girl in 2002. He thought she was 16, but after being arrested for 3rd degree sex abuse he quickly learned she was 14. He never did anything sexual to her, but she did perform oral sex on him. We paid $10,000 for what we thought should be a good competent lawyer. How wrong we was on that. He was willing to take anything the county attorney offered. Trying to avoid a trial, he plead to a misdemeanor thinking this would be so much better in the long run. Not really; a sex offender is a sex offender; all are painted with the same brush. We later learned that if he had been a few month younger, under the code he was arrested for, he wouldn’t be required to register at all. We had a psychological evaluation with a $400 price tag done on him for a professional opinion and was told he was NOT…

originally posted 11/29/2011 I actually attempted to obtain a Certificate of Rehabilitation about 4 years ago. I was convicted of a minor offense which resulted in my obtaining summary probation (stay way from massage parlors). Furthermore, I was informed by my then lawyer I wouldn’t have to register once the charge was expunged. Wrong. Well, I live in Orange County and the legal issue occurred in LA. I have never been arrested, live a good life and don’t even have any parking tickets. When I went to OC, the DA was a monster. She provided an investigative report (this is what is required) that didn’t state my probation correctly, and they were even saying they didn’t know what the resolution of the case was.  The woman was yelling, the report had numerous errors, and it was nuts. The judge finally stated he couldn’t find one reason to deny the motion, but it wasn’t enough. Now, I have children and they are beginning these park…

originally posted 11/24/2011   I am the wife of a RSO. I did not know my husband at the time of his conviction but know his story very well. When my husband was 22, he was at a friend’s house drinking. He started talking to a girl who said she was 18. As the night went on, they both continued drinking and ended up having sex. It turns out she was only 17. She went to school and talked like teenage girls tend to do and was overheard. My husband was arrested and charged with consensual sex with a minor. Only people  close to him know about his crime. It was a long time after we met that he finally told me. People ran away from him since the time of his conviction all because he is a sex offender. Since he is only a level one offender, he will be able to stop registering after 15 years. However, he will still…

originally posted 12/5/2012 In 1993, I made the biggest mistake of my life. Oh, no one was hurt physically, but mentally there was a lot of damage done. Every year I get to relive the incident over and over again, and what took seconds to take place, now gets played back in my mind in slow motion and in great detail. How could I have been so stupid, one moment of insanity. I should have pleaded that instead of being so scared and wanting it all to go away quickly and pleading no contest. So it started my life of registering as a sex offender. If I should happen to forget to register, it was off to jail I went, no judge or jury, just thirty days. You would think that once would do the trick, but it happened to me twice. The first time the police officer took me from the hospital. I had checked myself in because I…

originally posted 12/4/2012 My son went out with two of his so-called friends who had a teenage girl in the truck with them. They picked my son up at our yard where he was working with his step father. They went out and then came back to my house to hang out. A few days later I found out there were two detectives at my house from friends of mine. I asked my son why they were there and at first he wouldn’t tell me. I finally got it out of him. He told me that this girl told him she was 19 years old as well as his so called friends told him the same thing. I set up an appointment with my lawyer, and the day before, the detectives picked him up. I wasn’t home at this time, and my husband called me and asked where I was. Right then and there I knew something was wrong. Then my neighbor called me and asked…

originally posted 1/20/2012 This is my story. I am 23 years old. I am the mother of a beautiful five month old girl, a wife, full time student, and full time employee. I am also a registered sex offender. In 2006, at the age of 18, I was charged with sexual misconduct with a minor, as a class C felony in Dearborn County, IN. I was a senior in high school when I met Scott. I was 17 and he was 15. We dated for seven months, and then I turned 18. On my birthday his mother told us we could not see each other anymore. We continued to see each other anyway. We live in a relatively small town, with two of his cousins being police officers. I was in my first semester of college when I was arrested. I missed my exams because I was in jail and lost my scholarship. The next year was hell. I spun…

originally posted 12/12/2012 For me personally, it’s 4 more years left to go to before I can legally petition to get of the registry with a CA Certificate of Rehabilitation. You have to wait 10 years from the time your probation or parole ends. You hear different versions on needing to reside in CA before applying, 3-5 years before the 10 year period is over, on the various attorney websites in CA. I wonder how I’m going to get around THAT one? The law states unless you have an extenuating circumstance'. I'd always hoped that I'd be employed abroad before then and could plead that I was the primary support of my wife and couldn’t  relocate to CA and leave her. I'd hate to come back and live jobless and homeless under a bridge or a park bench somewhere just so some politician could get votes. It's funny the timing…4 more years to go, and just yesterday there was news about…

originally posted 1/6/2012 I remember hearing about Sex Offenders as kids, but we were never afraid of them, only just to stay away. I was living in Kansas dealing with a teenage life, before i moved back to Ohio where I am from and finding out that a friend of mine had molested his sisters and blamed me for this incident because of the playboys I had in my house. The cops and CPU people went after me hardcore. In my paperwork it even shows that they have my age wrong. These people assumed I was over 20 something years old and when I finally got corrected, things seemed to turn out ok. The juvenile judge in Cincinnati (GOD BLESS HER!!) saw through the lies and dismissed 2 of the charges, but sadly she did push one through on a (just in case) type of thing, but of course there is a legal name for it. Anyways… Ii went through…

originally posted 11/12/2011 When I was in treatment, I was lead to believe that things would be a lot better than they ended up being. While freedom definitely beats prison in any sort of contest, I would say that things are not so easy. My neighbors all look at me like I am the devil. Not one of them has ever said a word to me, and they usually don’t look at me either. I can understand their fears, to some degree, because my crime was violent and involved a firearm. But the extent to which they shun me is something I did not expect. Call me silly, but I would have liked to have thought that we could wave and say hello once in a while, like neighbors do. I was never expecting to get an invitation to dinner, but I would like to at least live on friendly terms. I am from a small town, so my crime was…