originally posted 1/12/2011 I am not sure if I am in the right place. I am looking to try to be helpful where I can. I am engaged to a wonderful man who is serving time in an Illinois Correctional facility. He is a registered Sex Offender. This label is used so loosely, and I wish there was a way to let people know that there are different levels and most should not be classified in association with the Sex Offender in the true sense. Even as he sits in prison, he is accused of something he is not guilty of, for not registering his “new address” . I lost my job of 20 years for my relationship with him. Somehow I have to try to convince my own family that the label given to him with the spectrum being so vast, the accusations all in one clump, not separating the innocent, those who have not harmed any other human…
Originally posted 12/22/2010 I wrote this because as a mother of a sex offender seeing “other” criminals walk with NOTHING when my child has effectively lost his freedoms FOREVER leaves me cold. �The story of �my son Gary is found in Wikkipedia. My son is at FCI Miami until 09/01/15. I want to introduce you to two young men from different generations and ask the question that preys on my soul. First is a young man born April 29, 1945. In 1968, when he was 23 years old, he and his girlfriend kidnapped a young �woman and requested $500,000 ransom. He buried the victim alive giving her a tube that allowed her to get some air and setting up a little fan. She was also given drugged water to drink. She was in the grave from December 17 to December 20 before she was rescued. The young man had his girlfriend wait at the �gravesite� to cover the air hole…
originally posted 12/13/2010 I am married to the most caring, loving man, that just happens to be on the Sex Offenders Registry. He was 17 at the time (20 years ago). �The police scared him into a plea with a flat sentence of 11 years, which he served. I am/was a foster mother, not sure where that is because they came and took the kids yesterday, and now they are saying that my husband can not be in the same house or even see my two year old son. We looked at the laws when we fell in love, to make sure we were not breaking any laws. �Even his probation officer (now he is off of probation)told him that if we were married it was not against the law to live with his stop son. Something has got to be done, DCS in our state is now doing an investigation and until it’s over my son has to spend…
originally posted 12/12/2010 my son used limewire, a file share program to download music for his I pod, he found a video containing underage porn. �the video was a trap made and distributed by the County law enforcement task force. �My son was charged with posession,he did not delete it off his harddrive, attempt to distribute (because it was a file share program distribute). �He is now a felon, unemployable, labled a sex offender for life, and a whole lot of law agencies are making a whole lot of money off his situation. polygraphers, parole officers, monitoring alone cost 16,000.00 for the 6 years he must wear the bracelet and carry the box. �Weekly therapy, the lawyer, bail, court fees, they just put this bait out there and round up the college students. �we have spent at least 60.000.00 and we arent half way through his parole. �you do the math. �its ALL about money. this is the first experience…
originally posted 12/3/2010 My young son (at age 19) did not manufacture material, did not assault any child, and did not personally share any material he downloaded other than the built in sharing of the Limewire program. Our State Attorney General is cracking down heavily on child pornography. There was some in the material Joe downloaded. There were also teens who, while technically child porn, were within 1-3 years of his age which I would consider natural (although I don’t condone the porn). His public defender got them to drop the intent to distribute charge and the final charge doesn’t specifically state child pornography (possession of lewd material of a pornographic nature), but he now has 5 years of probation and 25 years on the sex offender registry. We also discovered that in our state, the registry time does not begin until the accused is no longer in jail or on parole or probation. Which means my son is actually…
originally posted 12/1/2010 I am a registered sex offender who can’t find work, can’t take care of my disabled fiancee, and can’t take care of myself, because of the public stigma with carrying that label. �When I was 21 years old in 1997, I met a woman in a bar and had a one night stand with her. �She turned out to be 15 years old. �Because of that one night of celebrating my entire life has been ruined. These Laws need to be reformed and clear levels need to be established for those who are a danger to the public and those who aren’t.
originally posted 11/29/2010 I am 30 when I was 16 I was with a friend driving around. My friend and I met these 2 girls at a park after we played basketball there. They said they where 14 and 15. My friend and I where 16. They said they would be babysitting and wanted us to come over to the house latter and mess around. So my friend and I went to the house. Where it was decided by the girls that they wanted to have sex. So my friend and I had sex with the girls in a back bedroom. Then we left and I ended up moving and so I never saw the girls again. Then 5 years latter I had a investigator show up at my house about raping a girl. I then found out that the girl I had sex with was 13. And just a couple months past the legal age gap of 3 years….
originally posted 11/28/2010 In 2000 I was wrongfully convicted of prostitution and attempted sodomy 2, for supposedly offering money to a 13 year old girl for oral sex. This was complete BS, and my court-appointed atty. royally screwed up the case. Although I got him to try to explain to the judge what he’d done, the judge wouldn’t even listen. The two girls’ (victim & her friend) testimony varied wildly from each other, and it should have been quite evident that one or both were lying. Of course, the jury always wants to believe the girls side. I was found guilty, and have exhausted my appeal rights, just this year being denied by the 9th District Court Of Appeals. If I was imprisoned, I could exercise my Habeas Corpus rights, but since I’m not imprisoned, I have no further recourse. I have seriously considered violating the terms of registration, just so I could go to jail and file Habeas Corpus….
originally posted 11/28/2010 My fiancee (33 at the time), had consensual sex (no force,weapon, etc), with a girl he thought was at least 18 (she was 2 weeks shy of her 18th bday).She was screwing around on her boyfriend with many guys, was pregnant by him,and didn’t want to get into trouble, so she used the “rape card” and my fiancee was the one she used. �Hung jury the first time (not enough evidence, etc); judge was biased and called a 2nd trial; my fiancee did 2 years in prison; did his probation/parole; is OFF paper now; still has to register til 2022: hard time getting jobs, etc., and now he has to move out of my home because we were told that my house is 191 feet shy of the 1000 feet from a school. They told him that since he doesn’t have income, transportation, etc., he could always go the local homeless shelter….REALLY???? Then what happens when his…
originally posted 11/23/2010 My son took a plea offer for a crime that he did not commit,because he was afraid to gamble with his life in a trial. That was 10 years ago. This left him as a registered sex offender. He is a single parent, with an infant son, and now is concerned for not only his safety due to the internet posting,of sex offender registry, but he is also concerned for the safety of his baby. So how are they protecting children? This has put my Grandson at risk.
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