originally posted 7/2012 This has been a nightmare for my son all in the name of LOVE. He just so happened to fall in love with a 16 year old as well as her falling in love with him. The mother was aware of their feelings, as far as I could see with approval. That is until my son’s ex-wife and her dad got wind of this. Then all hell broke loose nine years ago. My son’s whole life was turned upside down. Lost his job (of eight years) at the school system, his two sons as he was not allowed to see them, all the normal living was snatched away. He and Amanda would probably have been married (if people didn’t make this dirty)with a great life. They were so happy together, always laughing. Anyway, my point is Amanda is living life and my son is still paying for this relationship all because of an age thing. Well, enough…
originally posted 7/2012 The legal system is broken. Regardless of what the Supreme Court thinks, the sex registry is unconstitutional and cruel and unusual punishment designed to torture…simple as that. It servers no other purpose. If an offender of any sort of violent crime (robbery, rape, etc) is seen fit to be released into the general population then they should be allowed to work or live anywhere they wish. Let police know where they are but there is no reason for the ignorant masses to have that sort of personal information. Nearly any other “criminal” is allowed a second chance except those labelled as sex offenders. How is that fair? How is that the American way? It is shameful and unfair. If you have paid your debt to society then you should be allowed to move on with your life without this unfair classification. Holier than thou people feel superior when they can log on from their homes to see…
originally posted 7/2012 A year after I was added to the registry, my wife gave me a new billfold. I didn’t understand; my billfold was not that old. She took my driver’s license and put it in the new wallet. The plastic window was smaller, and she pointed out, “Now you can’t see where the red letters state, ‘criminal sex offender.’” Hmm, I wonder if there’s a non criminal sex offender? I tried to fight the registry, even joined the ACLU, wrote letters and e mails, and was in the process of organizing a chapter to join in the fight. She was dead set against it. My wife has never even had a parking ticket. I think it was a shock to her when she found out the police and legal system are far from being the good guys…sadly she fears them now, and that’s a shame. Worse yet, she fears for me and will not accept what I want to…
originally posted 7/2012 I was charged with a CSC crime when I was 17, it’s on my Juvenile record. But I still have to register as a Sex Offender. I got my charge in Michigan & I failed to register like on my 1st time to re-register so I got a misdemeanor for that. Fast forward to 10 yrs later, I now live in Virginia. Here, I register monthly & let them know where I’m working. I lost a total of two jobs in VA due to the Trooper coming to my job to verify my employment. He came in full uniform and stated he was from the Sex Offender Department. On a background check my crime does not show up but my failure to register does. I talked to the Trooper; he told me they have to physically verify Sex Offenders’ employment. So that led me to not report my working. I have a family now & each time…
originally posted 7/2012 Ten years have passed since my conviction. I have gone through fear of trying to be close with others; my new life has shunned me from others that cease to understand me. I live in a small city in a studio apartment. I have grown to be alone and fear that all I’ll become is a silent moving shadow that is among the community. I don’t know what I’ll do; my life is closing in on me but I do live cause life wants me to live. I have attempted to commit suicide a few times, not because of the registry but knowing that people will never take me in as their own and I’ll continue being shunned. I just want to be understood.
originally posted 7/2012 I was talking through a chat room and ended up talking to multiple undercover cops posing as 15 year olds. When they tried to get me out in public to meet I declined. A few days later I was arrested anyway. I was charged with soliciting a minor, even though I didn’t leave my residence. I lost the job I had at the time and was let go from another shortly after sentencing. My attorney recommended taking the deal offered but promised to appeal and never did. I’m currently going through the court ordered therapy which is a joke. I find they teach people how to find easier victims. The therapist also has told the group that there are no good males in her profession and has blamed men for most evil in the world. I can’t find a job and I have to see a man-hating therapist. On top of this the county can’t…
originally posted 7/2012 My husband is a RSO and I love him dearly. All my hubby did was show some porn to his daughter trying to teach her how to defend herself. He realizes this was not a good thing to do. She told his mom about it and she (his mom) reported the incident to the police thinking that my husband would only get a slap on the hand. As a result, my husband was arrested and charged with a sex offense. He did his prison time, but he is continually being punished as a result of the registry. My dear husband cannot get employment or housing. He now has to list all the places he frequents on the registry including the places where he eats, or it’s considered a parole violation which could send him back to prison. He can’t even use my place to take showers or eat, or I would have to put my address on the registry…
originally posted 7/2012 I am on the registry since 2005, charged with child pornography; lots of images. Took the plea deal: 10 years registration, which two years later got grandfathered to a lifetime registration. Did sex offender treatment, three years of probation. All completed, all done with. I thought. I am not denying any of the pornography, but at a certain point in treatment, I felt forced to add a number of things – touching or groping that didn’t occur – just to move beyond that particular point. I know it sounds like a lie; treatment was one of the best things that could of happened to me, it allowed me to reveal things that I have kept hidden for so long, including being sexually abused myself. Another red flag: I am not supposed to use that as an excuse, or a crutch, I was constantly told in treatment. You are looking at a man whose life from the age of 12 has been fear…
originally posted 6/2012 This is not about me, but about a young man I know. I am a Special Education teacher at a very small school, in a small rural community. We have grades K-12 on one campus, and everyone knows everyone. I will call him CJ. CJ was classified under Special Education with low skills in verbal understanding, and low reading and math skills. CJ was at least two years behind his peers, and so therefore was 18 when he was a junior in high school. He had also been in trouble at a different school and lost many high school credits. But he was a very likable, polite young man when he had support. When CJ was a junior and just started to play football, younger girls started to chase him. He was friends with a brother of one of the girls, and it wasn’t long until the 13 year old girl “caught” him. Her mother…
originally posted 6/2012 In 2003, I was told I had to register as a ten year registrant. In 2008, I received a letter stating that I would have to register for the rest of my life. Talk about change! My son had just been born and I was happy. I was doing my best to move forward in my life but this letter just put a roadblock in the way. I was convicted of two crimes; one in October of 2003 and one in the summer of 2004. I was told that due to these two crimes I was supposed to be a lifetime RSO. Other people have the same two crimes; some have even three yet they are 10 year RSOs. How is that even possible? I try to better my life by going to school and getting a better education but even that doesn’t help. I’m a RSO in Maine, and I push forward cutting my way through all the red tape and…
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