Month: November 2012

originally posted 11/25/2009 My husband was arrested for solicitation of a minor, a computer offense, while we were dating.   This is when I discovered he had developed an addiction to internet chatting for sexual purposes in an attempt to remain celibate until marriage.  He began when he was approximately 18 years of age and was 29 years old when arrested for chatting with a 14 year-old undercover cop.  I do not condone what he did, but I understand how he got caught up in his addiction.  My husband will soon begin a 5 year prison sentence and be a registered sex offender for life.  What he really needs is counseling and a chance to lead a normal life.  Under the current laws this will never happen.  My husband is a good Christian man who is also a human, and is not without sin.  He has never denied responsibility for his actions and is very remorseful.  I love him and will always support him.

originally posted 11/20/2009 My husband was convicted of 2nd degree sexual assault on a child in 2007.  She was the teenage daughter of our neighbors who we were very good friends with.   She was very promiscuous for her age and acted in a very provocative way toward the men around her … including her older brother and her own father.   I had always sensed that there was something going on with her. Being in the social work field she had many signs that she was sexually abused in her life in some way. Our families spent many evenings together as well as weekends.   My husband was the neighborhood go-to-guy.   He would get out there and get the kids involved in playing sports.   He fixed things for everyone.   He was fun and helped the neighborhood with whatever was needed. The neighbor girl grew very fond of my husband.   There was times she would hang…

originally posted 11/17/2009 I’m currently a registered sex offender in North Carolina.  I know that my state isn’t as bad as some with their laws, but I’m afraid that it will get worse.  I’ve been on the r.s.o. list  since 2001 and have two years left.  I was only 18 when I got convicted of indecent liberties with a minor.  The girl was 14.   Her parents were alright with us dating and said that they didn’t care what we did as long as she didn’t get pregnant.  I was ill-informed that the law was as long as the age difference was less then 5 years it was legal.   Well after we broke up her parents called the police.   I never denied anything we did I even told the police everything we had done because I didn’t know it was illegal. We never had sex because she wanted to wait but we did everything else other then vaginal…

originally posted 11/12/2009 I was charged with a sex crime as a young adult back in 1996. Since that time sex offender laws kept increasing, and have gotten so ridiculous. I can’t even go to a public library anymore. I have been highly dicriminated against, even though I have served my debt to society. No wonder people do not want to register. My victim forgave me years ago. Yet this unforgiving world, in my opinion will never inherit the kingdom of GOD. Only those who will inherit the kingdom are those, that have accepted Jesus. Yet one day when we give an account to GOD what is the response going to be as to why are sex offenders being ousted from community and even church. Everybody in my opinion has commited a sex crime, yet my bible says all have sinned and fallen short. There is noone who is `more righteous than thou`. All this discrimination is no better than…

originally posted 11/12/2009 I was convicted for committing a sex offense in 1990, in Nebraska, and spent 12 1/2 years in prison for it. �Initially, upon release, I was required to register for 10 years. �Now, under a new law going in to effect next year, I will be required to register for life, even though there is nothing to indicate I pose any more of a threat to society than I did upon my release from custody in 2003. �In addition, I will be required to supply any and all internet identifiers I have, such as email addresses, will be required to sign a consent form giving authorities permission to search my home without a warrant or any sort of cause, and will be committing a felony if I access/use social networking sites and instant messaging services, even if I have no contact with minors on any of them. This is ridiculous. �This is un-Constitutional. �This must stop. �It…

originally posted 11/2/2009 Having to take a plea in fear of what a jury would think, my brother has had to unfairly endure the hardest two and a half years of his life. With another two and a half years to go, we have watched the system swallow another victim whole. This entire process has sucked the life out of my family. Its not fair: he is treated the same as a sexual predator. He made a bad decision, he is not harmful to society! Something has to be done!

originally posted 11/2/2009 I am a registered offender in the State of Maryland and I am disgusted with the way they register us within the state and the ability for one officer to change the term of you requirements by the swift marking of a pen or a moving a mouse within the system. Explanation: I went to register and on my charges and my last day in court I was to register for 10 years and was filed under the state of Maryland as a Level I Sexual Offender. �I went to register recently and came out reading a piece of paper stating that I am now classified to be on the registry for lifetime instead of ten years. The system has so many loop holes and is out of control. �Local, state and federal authorities are lost in their paper files and new technologies. �My life was destroyed because a minor lied about his age and and I…

originally posted 10/25/2009 The sex offender “witchhunt” that has taken hold all over this country is ridiculous and devastating. My son, who is 19, is living this nightmare, along with the rest of his family. We have no resources to turn to. How is he supposed to recover from this? How do you move forward? Is it even possible? The girl who was 17 participated in consensual sex, but was a runaway, and to avoid charges herself, made a deal with the police. It was not rape, it was not molestation of a small child. How do we combat this and what can I do to change things? He is just a young man whose life is ruined. He feels his only option at this point is suicide. There are only a few shelters in Phoenix (which is 90 miles from here) that will accept s.o.’s and they are full. His probation officer told him to “buy a tent and…

originally posted 10/20/2009 I am involved with a sex offender who had sex with a teen when he was a teen. He is to register for life, but yet is STILL serving time 10 years after the fact due to our state’s over the top sentencing…he still has 9 more years of tedious supervision to go with an electronic bracelet attached to his ankle! �Because of his probation/supervision status, we will not be able to have kids…it would always be a fight for him to have contact with his own kids and minor rule violations will send him back to prison leaving me a single mom and extending the time he has to serve on supervision out further as well due to truth in sentencing laws! �As it stands now, I will be 42 when he is done with probation if no bumps occur in the road; this is too old for me to START a family! �So his punishments…

originally posted 10/20/2009 I am the wife of, now that he has been sentenced, a “sex offender”. My husband of 9 years suffers from Bipolar Disorder. He has what is ackowledged by the Prosecutor as a manic episode. Despite a previous spotless record, and having served (he was active duty when this occured) 25 years in the Military, he was chaged at the Federal Level. They did this for two reasons. One, to gain publicity, and a lot of it. They used his military position to vilify him for days. Two, the ICAC has had a public dispute with the State Prosecutor, and rather than deal with him, took the path of least resistance and charged him Federally. This took his charge of Enticement of a minor over the internet from 30-90 days in jail to 46 months in a FED prison. He had to plea down to this 46 month sentence. Despite his previous perfect record, an stellar post…