originally posted 11/18/2008 This story is typical of many and is similar to mine as well. Jail time, probation, fines and counseling, or as they call it, “treatment,” were all what I expected for my crime, but losing my rights to live, work and play freely in my country of origin after I have successfully completed my sentence was not what I expected. To become a lifetime suspect in all sex crimes no matter how, who, what, when and where is to me the sign of a very paranoid and sick society. I’m appalled when I hear our politicians chastise other countries for human rights violations against their citizens, while the U.S. currently engages in depriving their citizens of basic housing. In their endeavor for security they are unwittingly building an army of outcasts, hardened in their prisons and then released upon their streets with little or no chance of redemption. With the decline of the economy, crime will inevitably increase, and…
originally posted 11/12/2008 My son is a registered sex offender in the state of Texas. He is also required to take mandatory lie detector tests (and pay for them) approximately every 3 months! I can empathize and sympathize with the stories that are posted on the RSOL site. My son had consentual sex with a 15 year old. At the time he was 21, had 50% ownership in a family fast food business, his own home & vehicle, and was attending Jr. College. The parents of the young lady were quite happy with their relationship until the father found out my son had an Iranian father! He pled guilty at the advice of his attorney and received 10 years probation and a life time on the Registry. He got out of our business due to probation restrictions on hiring policies for the store, sold his home only to find out he could not get find nor get approved for a…
originally posted 11/11/2008 My husband and I met 10 yrs ago; now we have been married 8 years, and we have 3 kids together. He has to register as a sex offender over me! I was 6 yrs different in age from him. He served 2 yrs in prison; then my mom and dad signed papers for us to get married. We are happily married. We just met at the wrong time in life.. I just don’t know why we have to suffer like this because we fell in love at the wrong time….
originally posted 11/11/2008 My son has been labeled “sex offender” wrongfully. He engaged in heavy petting at the age of 19, with a 15 year old. There was nothing violent about it. Her parents found out and called police and my son was arrested. The day my son was sentenced to 10 years deferred adjudication probation and to register for life as a “sex offender,” he was a 19 year old virgin. His limitations are almost unbelievable, and his life has been basically ruined. He was always a happy person, and now he is on antidepressants and becomes very angry about the simplest of things. I want my son back, but first and foremost, I want my son to have his life back! Anonymous in Texas
originally posted 8/24/2008 I have been married to my husband for more than 8 years now, and had two children with him as well. He is my soulmate, my best friend, and so much more. When I met him, he was ashamed of his label society had given him. He even tried to hide it from me, which I totally understand why. He had been rejected, ridiculed, hurt, threatened and mistreated over something he did when he was 19 years old. He didn’t rape anyone, or molest anyone. He touched the clothed breast of his 14 yr old female partner, and as many teen boys have made this mistake .. he failed to verify her age, being mislead to believe she was of consenting age. Nothing beyond that point ever took place, because he had thought to ask her age then, but it was too late as he had already touched her in a sexual manner. When he sent her…
originally posted 10/14/2008 In the eyes of the law, my son is a registered sex offender in Illinois. This is the furthest thing from the truth, a truth nobody has wanted to hear. Paul at the age of 18 was very close to his 2nd cousin, a girl who was 12. Paul is ADHD and learning disabled (All documented; report dated just weeks before his arrest show his comprehension level at the 4th grade, 7th month. This was an evaluation for special education paid for by the state to determine goals for life after high school). The cousins were together everyday due to her mom being a caregiver for my mother. On Memorial weekend, 2003, the girl`s family went on a camping trip which included Paul. Her Mom noticed them sitting close and wanted to know what was going on between the two of them. Both children denied anything was going on and yet she insisted that the children were…
originally posted 10/10/2008 My brother was falsely accused and convicted of molesting his two oldest daughters. This all happened after he remarried, and his ex-wife called my mother and said if I can’t have him no one will. You wouldn’t think this kind of thing actually goes on, only in Soap Operas. Anyway she got their two oldest teenage daughters to testify against him. He was convicted and spent 20 years in prison for something he didn’t do. He wouldn’t admit he was guilty, so they wouldn’t let him out on parole. He maxed out, but now has to register. This is so not fair, after putting 20 years in for something he didn’t do, to have to have the rest of his life ruined.
originally posted 10/10/2008 I am a former (teacher) who was recently convicted of indecent liberties with a minor (17 years old, just months from turning 18). My wife and I took this young woman into our home during her senior year at the school where I taught after she was kicked out of her older sister`s home. My wife and I were unaware the reason she was kicked out was because she was having sex with her 38 year old brother in law. Unfortunately, I made a very poor choice. Thankfully we never had sex. I am now classified as a violent sex offender for having a consensual relationship (though not actual sex) with this girl. She didn’t even want charges brought but because I was a teacher, the state pressed the case. I received very biased media coverage (many lies) and was strong-armed into taking a plea deal of 6 months out of fear of getting 5 years from a jury trial. Before this, I…
originally posted 10/7/2008 I just wanted to send you a quick note to thank you for all of your prayers, support, encouragement, and above all else your friendship. It worked !!!!!! As of yesterday, I am officially removed from the TN Sex Offender Registry and no longer under any registration requirements. The feeling of the weight of the registry being lifted off of my shoulders after twenty three years is indescribable, but it has given me a new determination to fight for the rights of all registrants so that all of them and their families affected by these laws can one day feel the same overwhelming joy that I am feeling right now. I am still unfortunately listed on the Florida registry which in turn lists me on the National registry but that is a battle for another time and place. For right now I will settle for our TN victory and focus on changing the laws for everyone’s benefit. Thanks again…
originally posted 10/7/3008 This is from an inmate from a young man in the SW, whose crime was that he was found guilty of consensual sex with a 16 year old waitress he met as a truck driver on the road: This is what has happened to me in prison since I turned myself in in 1995 because they were looking for me. I spent 18 months in jail because of the press and TV coverage. I was taken to court and given l6 years with 5 years probation. From 1995 until now I have been attacked four times that are on record. There was one other time. One time I was attacked by a sergeant and 2 officers. They left no marks on my body but I had 2 broken ribs. Medical reports said I fell against a wall. I was put in isolation for 2 years. In 1999 I finally made it to prison from jail and put into the population. When some of the…
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