Tales From the Registry

I’m so lost and empty right now.. I feel so sick with worry and fear wondering how this will all go.. My son is only 17.. He has a learning disability and doesn’t really fit in with others his age.. Hes more at his sisters age level around 14-15.. So his sisters friends are who his friends are.. Him and one of her friends decided they liked each other and ended up sleeping together.. The girl told her mom and her mom fearing am unwanted pregnancy took her for the morning after pill.. The hospital automatically called the cops.. Its statutory of course because he is 17.. But the m and daughters story have changed from what was originally told to me when the mom made contact with me.. So there is a total of 6 charges, one being actual rape.. Idk what to do.. I’m at an attorneys office as I type this, crossing my fingers and praying.. We…

As a child, I was moved from a sleepy little village in Cambridge, England to the sprawling suburban metropolis of San Diego, California. The adjustment to American culture as an eight year old child had a profound effect on me that would forever shape my view of the criminal justice system. Childhood in Cambridge was similar to how I imagine childhood would have been in any part of New Zealand. I rode my bike home from primary school through a small village every day, entirely carefree. As I got older friends would walk with me home, sometimes stopping at the village shops on the way. My new American home was the complete opposite: several miles from my school via multiple freeways. Geography aside, I was told by my family it simply wasn’t safe for a child to ride their bike home alone in California. It also wasn’t safe for children to play outside unsupervised, or to ever be in a…

My son just this month plead guilty to something he’s not guilty of.  He’s gay, recently married, and a victim.  Because he had no proof of who used his computer, he was advised to plead guilty and serve a few years of probation – with no requirement to register.  At the final court date, he was told that the law changed and everyone had to register. I feel he was lied to and betrayed through every step of the legal process.   From the investigator who was “on his side”, and said he should plead guilty because he owned the home, the computer in question (and not to worry – he would probably just get a slap on the wrist for it).  To the lawyer who was supposed to look out for his best interests, to the prosecutor who just needed a conviction, regardless of justice or fairness. I always thought the registry was for actual child molesters and sexual…

Hi All, I’m brand new to the forum and wanted to share my “Tale From The Registry”. Last Sunday, my family and I were humiliated at Disney World while attempting to enter Animal Kingdom. It was more of a heartbreak to my family than it was to me because, fortunately, I’ve learned to deal with the discrimination towards SO’s over the last 25 years. The crux of the story is that my 34-year-old son purchased an annual pass for me as a birthday gift so I could start going to Disney with them since they already had passes of their own. He and his wife have a wonderful little 4 year old son who is my pride and joy. Being able to share Grandpa time with him at Disney over the years would have been a special thing for the entire family.

Hello, everyone. My name is Amanda. I have a bachelor’s degree in English and Creative Writing and I am currently working on my master’s thesis in creative writing at SNHU. My thesis is a three hundred page fictional novel with a sex offender as the main protagonist.  As I head into the revision stage, I’ve gone over my current text and realized, unfortunately, that the only thing I really know about sex offenders is from what I’ve seen on television. I know this is inaccurate.  So my next phase is to reach out and interact with those who can tell me what it’s really like; to fill in the blanks or correct the information that the media, and therefore, the general public gets wrong about registered sex offenders in today’s society. I find this forum fascinating and informative and would love to open a dialogue with anyone who would like to be “interviewed” about what it’s like being a RSO on a day to…

I have always pondered that question and while I am branded a sex offender for life it makes one think that maybe they should of gave more thought to this issue instead of taking a plea deal as most of these sex offenses are usually taken care of by Plea deals offered by the courts. My situation stemmed from being on an adult chat site and I happened to click on a screen name and had a sexual chat with a person that said they were 15. I questioned her why she couldn’t find anyone her own age and all those things and she came up with lie’s after lies. Course I had told her I never meet anyone online but as it happened I was induced by her when she had told me she was home alone the second night. She had wanted me to cam and other things such as send pictures, etc., sounded a bit strange and…

I moved from North Carolina to Illinois in 2010 and received a letter by the IL state police stating that I was no longer required to register and that I had completed my registration requirements in IL. This year (2014), a cop has decided that he would like to see me register even though the law states that I shouldn’t have to register unless convicted of another felony. I pleaded with him and said I was not required to register. Now, I find myself fighting a failure-to-register (FTR) case, as well as having my computers confiscated.  I never thought I would have my rights violated like this, but obviously they can get away with pretty much anything they want without having to pay any consequence. The reason I had my computers confiscated is because I told him I referee hockey (men’s hockey), and he turned it around and said I reffed children’s hockey. So he took all of my computers with…

I do not even know where, or how, to begin. I am a 44 yr. old husband and father of two wonderful sons. One of which is struggling with Autism. In 2011, I was accused of inappropriately touching  two young ladies who were babysitting for us. One was 15 and the other 16. My wife and one son were here. Nothing happened. Anyway, I was charged with 2 counts of felony 1st degree sexual abuse. Throughout the entire investigation I had the support of everyone. My wife, family, friends and even the grandparents of one of the accusers. I retained a very reputable attorney. After no one showed for the first two pre-liminary hearings the state was still going to indict me. My attorney called me the day before and stated that the prosecutor offered a plea agreement. They offered to combine the two charges into one. One charge a misdemeanor simple battery and the other a misdemeanor 3rd degree…

I don’t really know how to go about doing this or if it will even do any good, but I’m at my wits and and I know that there are others in similar situations. I’m 44 and on the sex offender registry in SC. I entered chat rooms when I was 36 and said and did things that I’m ashamed to admit to. I can say with confidence that I believe I did this out of a chronic state of loneliness. I watched all of the kids that I grew up with go into adulthood and start families. It never happened for me. I was very skinny growing up and developed an inferiority complex, therefore I was not so good with women and dating. For 35 years, I didn’t spend one Christmas, Thanksgiving, or New Years with a date. I wanted it, but it never happened. Imagine what it would be like to want a special relationship with someone for…

Hello, my name is Kevin Soucy and I have been labeled a level 2 offender in the state of Rhode Island. Back in 1999 I was in my early 20’s, lonely, socially awkward, and still recovering from the nightmare of going through public school with an undiagnosed mental illness. I got a job working on computers and websites for a woman who had a young granddaughter whom I began having romantic feelings for. One day we were alone and playing on the bed when I reached up and pulled her pants down. She freaked out, and awareness of what I was doing hit me like a bucket of ice water. I couldn’t eat for the rest of the day and later than evening I confessed to the grandmother via email. The police got involved and I was sentenced to 15 years suspended with 4 months to serve in prison. When I got out I was required to attend group therapy,…